Hmm...
i dislike the fact that you don't let people live their own lives, weather it be with drinking, drug use, lifestyle, and choices in general. People are not always going to change for you. It is THEIR life. I've turned my back on too many good people because they didn't live THEIR life MY way. I now see how stupid that was. We're old enough now to make our own choices, and we're old enough to tolerate and respect others' decisions. I've tried changing people. It always ends ugly. They end up with much resentment for you. Overall, it's not a good thing. So if they're letting you live your life, why not let them live theirs? Idk, just a thought.