Couples
I've been CRAVING weed lately. I feel so stressed and run down and just want to be intoxicated. I quit drinking more than 6 months ago and I'm never going back to it. I can see that I do have some major addictive tendencies. If I had weed readily available I know I'd be a stoner all the time. I love it that much. I hate alcohol beyond the first 2 drinks and I never could make it just the 2, if it was readily available.
The only problem with the alcohol is that neither Michael, nor I, drink anymore. We don't smoke cigarettes anymore either. So, hence, we aren't into the bar scene. (Although I'd love to go dancing if I had a friend to do that with anymore!). We need friends so bad, but it seems like one of many things interferes with our 'couples' frienships. Here are the most common issues:
--they drink and we are lame to them (plus, we aren't so interested in being babysitters).
--they smoke cigarettes or like to go to places that are smokey, which we try to avoid now.
--they have kids. (this one is multi-faceted because it seems like all our friends with kids that were cheering us on with the getting pregnant thing have suddening disappeared now that we aren't trying anymore. Like they don't want to be our friends because we don't have kids. Or maybe it's that they think we don't want to be around their kids, who knows).
--they are republicans or severely conservative and we just cannot have conversations about what is happening in politics or the world because they are so stuck and unable to even consider the other side of thinking about the world.
--they are religious and want to convert us/recruit us to their church (and when we don't want to or want to have discussion about religion in general....um, like we like to question it, and talk about the hisotry and validity, etc. they don't typically respond well).
--they are not smart or they are very very ignorant and only want to talk about reality TV shows in their little McDonalds, TV, and materialistic self-centered world.
I think these are the most major delimmas. I think it's like someone who has been waiting for Mr. Right for too long and now their laundry list of qualifications is too long. hum.
The only problem with the alcohol is that neither Michael, nor I, drink anymore. We don't smoke cigarettes anymore either. So, hence, we aren't into the bar scene. (Although I'd love to go dancing if I had a friend to do that with anymore!). We need friends so bad, but it seems like one of many things interferes with our 'couples' frienships. Here are the most common issues:
--they drink and we are lame to them (plus, we aren't so interested in being babysitters).
--they smoke cigarettes or like to go to places that are smokey, which we try to avoid now.
--they have kids. (this one is multi-faceted because it seems like all our friends with kids that were cheering us on with the getting pregnant thing have suddening disappeared now that we aren't trying anymore. Like they don't want to be our friends because we don't have kids. Or maybe it's that they think we don't want to be around their kids, who knows).
--they are republicans or severely conservative and we just cannot have conversations about what is happening in politics or the world because they are so stuck and unable to even consider the other side of thinking about the world.
--they are religious and want to convert us/recruit us to their church (and when we don't want to or want to have discussion about religion in general....um, like we like to question it, and talk about the hisotry and validity, etc. they don't typically respond well).
--they are not smart or they are very very ignorant and only want to talk about reality TV shows in their little McDonalds, TV, and materialistic self-centered world.
I think these are the most major delimmas. I think it's like someone who has been waiting for Mr. Right for too long and now their laundry list of qualifications is too long. hum.