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[jennie_in_spain]

I know not many people out there read this and even fewer of those who this is directed at. I know I don't know everything that is going on because I'm up here and you are all down there. But I can't help but feel like things aren't being handled in the best way. People who were considered sisters just weeks ago are now feeling like outsiders

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[lieseraquel]

You haven't let anyone down, Jennie, although i certainly sympathize with the feeling right now. I actually tried emailing one of our more outspoken sisters about all this, to try to understand the opposing point of view, and there was just no seeing eye to eye on it. Not at this point, anyway. It's got to die down more.

It's just that people don't understand each other's motives, and that confusion has bred fear (that out of nowhere, more people might do the same), anger (that those people got to leave without having to cut all ties), and hurt (that sisters would walk out on other sisters when they believe they need them most). It's not even everyone, from what I understand. It's a small group of the loudest voices in intrasorority politics.

At first, when this all happened, I was discouraged from discussing it in a group setting--and I wasn't up to it anyway, to tell you the truth. But I regret that, because if I had forced the issue into the open, maybe people wouldn't be taking this so hard now. Even at this point, if people were willing to sit down and talk [not attack each other] about it, both as a group--with alumnae and actives, or even individually, this would be easier. Unfortunately, when I requested to be allowed into chapter the next time this was discussed, to clear up misunderstandings on my part at least, I was told alumnae weren't allowed, excepting certain circumstances (and mine was not one of them). So it seems that will not be happening anytime soon.

So instead, yet again, Delta Chapter is reacting irrationally, and allowing pervasive emotion to control how the chapter goes on from here, instead of digging deeper and resolving the issue. If we were only willing to be proactive and open about all this, I think it would help a lot. But I'm on the outside now, and it takes two to tango...and 42 to have a candle pass.

But don't feel like you're letting anyone down; Delta Chapter is just going to have to run its course of unwitting malice and usual gossip. Then maybe we'll have a chance, both alums and actives, to work ahead again. Maybe. Unless we, as a sisterhood, get slapped in the face with another non-issue that sets us back.

I'm sorry if my post upset you. I just was so frustrated with my inability to fix the issue that I've felt irrationally guilty about it for the past few days, and I had to get my thoughts out, so they wouldn't haunt me anymore.

Don't worry, this will all blow over soon. And if it doesn't, well, then I guess there's nothing we can do. Fatalistic, I know, but that's all I've got at this point.

[jennie_in_spain]

Sweetie your post didn't upset me, I just needed to do what you did w/ your post. I needed to express myself. I hate being away from all of you because I feel like if I was there I could help but I can't. I'm soo sorry you have to go through this. I really wish I could be there to help you.

I remember when I first met you and you were like a mini-me. I was so excited and so wanted you to be my sister. I'm so happy to be able to call you that. I admire your strength through all of this. I can't wait till I can see you again so I can give you a big hug.

Just remember if you ever need someone who understands at least a little bit to talk to, I am always here for you. Much love darling!