well that was fucked up.
Ok so I did something that was a bit childish but I still stand behind what I did. I called out my childhood bully on facebook. Little back story, this girl TORMENTED me in elementary school. To the point where I missed 60 days of school that year. This have never left me. my therapist suggested that I confront the situation and it should make me feel better. I tried to e-mail her, tried to send her a PM on facebook and nothing. So, I called her out on a picture she posted. She immediately blocked me. Mission NOT accomplished. Then I went onto My own personal face book page and posted what had happened. I got mixed reviews from people but the far worst was from my husbands cousin. mind you, she has only met me once or twice and doesn't know the situation at all. She was saying that I was full of shit and that I handled it wrong and only made myself look tacky. Fine with me, really, she is entitled to her own opinion. I PM her and tell her just this. I respect her opinion and I would just ask that she do the same. Well let me tell you, she did not do the same. She sends me this: "yeah well I didn't post that your behavior reminds me of all the shit stirring you do in the family as well, Seems like your MO. I'm done with it. I think you aren't who you pretend to be. And I don't care if you're mad about it. It's not like you come to family parties or anything anyway". I told her I was totally confused about the what I started in the family and her response was " wouldn't you like to know". ugh whatever! Little back story. My husband and I came to realize that someone in his immediate family must have been talking to the rest of the family about a situation we had 4 months ago. I called my father in law out for not doing anything to help my husbands sister who has a drug problem. (We found out by accident that she has a problem and was fired from her job, but his parents knew all along). Called him out for turning a blind eye. Then they told my husband that it was his responsibility to get her help, even though she lives with them. We haven't seen or spoken to his sister in 4 years. My husband told his dad that he wasn't going to be doing anything about his sister and that it was his responsibility as her father to do something. His dad turned it all around and blamed me because we found everything out. my husband asked him if he was ever planning on telling him that she was in this situation and he said he didn't know she was. So fucked up. Then he said that he would like to talk to my husband again about what to do.
plus, I was shocked that someone I don't even know would have so much information about something that is none of their business. Well anyway, my husband was looking on facebook today and saw that his father posted something about his cousin. Saying that "she should run for congress because she don't take no shit from nobody". How insulting. I am so over his family. My husband wrote back and stood up for me but still. Then my husband called his dad and pretty much confronted him about everything. I'm sure you can figure out how that went. nightmare!!!! His dad denied that his comment had anything to do with me and that he didn't know anything about renee messaging me, then in the next breath says something about my message about my bully!!! I don't know what to do anymore, this is starting to ruin my marriage. we go though drama with them like this every few months and my husband always forgives them. well, it's more like they all just ignore the issue until it goes away. But it never really goes away. I don't think I will ever be able to have a relationship with them again after this time. I feel like I am being blamed for shining a light on a subject that was demanding attention and everyone was ignoring it. His sister was my concern. His sister has lost all her teeth in the last 2 years. sorry, but that doesn't happen without a reason. I was only trying to help his family see that she needed help. I am stepping back from all of this and letting my husband deal with it. I just can't trust them to actually follow through with anything, once bitten twice shy. Plus they are an ocean liner full of crazy!!!!!
plus, I was shocked that someone I don't even know would have so much information about something that is none of their business. Well anyway, my husband was looking on facebook today and saw that his father posted something about his cousin. Saying that "she should run for congress because she don't take no shit from nobody". How insulting. I am so over his family. My husband wrote back and stood up for me but still. Then my husband called his dad and pretty much confronted him about everything. I'm sure you can figure out how that went. nightmare!!!! His dad denied that his comment had anything to do with me and that he didn't know anything about renee messaging me, then in the next breath says something about my message about my bully!!! I don't know what to do anymore, this is starting to ruin my marriage. we go though drama with them like this every few months and my husband always forgives them. well, it's more like they all just ignore the issue until it goes away. But it never really goes away. I don't think I will ever be able to have a relationship with them again after this time. I feel like I am being blamed for shining a light on a subject that was demanding attention and everyone was ignoring it. His sister was my concern. His sister has lost all her teeth in the last 2 years. sorry, but that doesn't happen without a reason. I was only trying to help his family see that she needed help. I am stepping back from all of this and letting my husband deal with it. I just can't trust them to actually follow through with anything, once bitten twice shy. Plus they are an ocean liner full of crazy!!!!!