Been there, done thatmistahbiruOctober 26 2006, 15:05:46 UTC
Spencer gets it. If he seems distant and un-caring sometimes... this is because he is male. Guys seem to be straight forward with their feelings with women, basically because it proves that we have them! Women like the sensitive type, ya know? Anyway, I had to learn(the hard way) that Angie sometimes does what you do. She gets upset over something.. sometimes nothing.. and carries it with her. Then something else happens.. it snowballs and suddenly she is in the room crying, yelling at me to leave her alone. Of course I don’t. I ask her what has happened and I help her through it. So I had to learn how to make her SHARE her problems with me. I had to let her know that it was better to share them then to hold them inside and keep me confused.
Spencer may know how to treat you as a girlfriend, but he doesn’t know how you react to stress or emotional pain. This is not a bad thing.. it means that the relationship is still progressing. If on the first date, he was given a manual on the insides and quirky feelings of Jen, you wouldn’t have this problem.. but the relationship would be dull.
Now for the tough part… What is boils down to is the #1 relationship killer. FEAR. I think you have a decision to make. Whether to let him into your heart or not. If you want him to understand you like you understand him.. you must. You will need to take down the shields.. you will need to let it all out in front of him.. all the fear, all the anxiety all your wants and needs. If he is the guy I think he is, he will have a few ideas himself on how to deal with this.. he will help you.
Re: WOH! WAIT!mistahbiruOctober 26 2006, 17:12:59 UTC
LOL! I know, Yankees. My mother was like "smoker? Oh, too bad, but he still seems like a good guy... WHAT? YANKEES? Jennifer, I'm very disappointed in you!"
You're right, of course, I know I need to open up more. I don't know why I feel like I have to take things on myself. He's trying, I know this, and I know I was being stubborn last night. I apologized (I do that when I know I'm in the wrong). But venting certainly helped.
Spencer may know how to treat you as a girlfriend, but he doesn’t know how you react to stress or emotional pain. This is not a bad thing.. it means that the relationship is still progressing. If on the first date, he was given a manual on the insides and quirky feelings of Jen, you wouldn’t have this problem.. but the relationship would be dull.
Now for the tough part… What is boils down to is the #1 relationship killer. FEAR. I think you have a decision to make. Whether to let him into your heart or not. If you want him to understand you like you understand him.. you must. You will need to take down the shields.. you will need to let it all out in front of him.. all the fear, all the anxiety all your wants and needs. If he is the guy I think he is, he will have a few ideas himself on how to deal with this.. he will help you.
Bill
P.S. Miss u2
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SCRATCH THAT!
Leave him... move down to St. Louis.. I'll hook ya up with a Cardinal fan.
*Hugz*
Biru
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You're right, of course, I know I need to open up more. I don't know why I feel like I have to take things on myself. He's trying, I know this, and I know I was being stubborn last night. I apologized (I do that when I know I'm in the wrong). But venting certainly helped.
Thanks much.
Missu3!
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