Writer's Block: Significant Change
I would never try to change myself in order to get someone to go out with me. EVER. Absolutely not. I don't understand how anyone can think that is a good idea. I would never pretend to be someone I'm not, or attempt to turn into someone else, in order to get someone to love me. If I did that then they wouldn't really love me at all, would they? They'd love the person I tried to turn, or change, myself into.
I also look at it from the other person's point of view. I would hate it if someone did that to me. It would be like thinking you just got a pet ferret only to find out that it's actually a chinchilla. I don't know about anyone else but I prefer to know who I'm getting into bed with, so to speak.
Plus what would happen down the road when you don't want to force yourself to change for that person anymore?
What you see is pretty much what you get with me. Love me.. don't love me, like me or don't like me. I'll live. At least I'll know that you don't like me because of who I am.
As for changing while in a relationship, I think I have changed in some ways during the past two years. I haven't really tried to change myself so much as I think I have grown in certain ways.
I also look at it from the other person's point of view. I would hate it if someone did that to me. It would be like thinking you just got a pet ferret only to find out that it's actually a chinchilla. I don't know about anyone else but I prefer to know who I'm getting into bed with, so to speak.
Plus what would happen down the road when you don't want to force yourself to change for that person anymore?
What you see is pretty much what you get with me. Love me.. don't love me, like me or don't like me. I'll live. At least I'll know that you don't like me because of who I am.
As for changing while in a relationship, I think I have changed in some ways during the past two years. I haven't really tried to change myself so much as I think I have grown in certain ways.