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What you don't seem to realize is that no one is asking you to "change who you are".
Let me further clarify.
Sometimes, Bee and I get annoyed with something that the other does. When this happens, we casually mention to each other that it hurts our feelings when the other does this... or it makes us so mad when the other does this... and the person being told this carefully thinks out what the other is saying and makes a mental reminder of it so that they can remember not to act that way around them.
The result if this is that we get along well with each other no matter what.
It's not like you're being asked to rearrange your DNA. All I'm every trying to say is, "hey, it kind of gets on my nerves when you act this way", or "hey, it really kind of hurts my feelings when you do this over and over again."
It's not even a matter of 'I demand you to change this or else no one will like you'. People already like you, or they wouldn't have been your friend from the start. It's just a slight change of attitude; instead of taking these things as personal offenses against your being, take them as light mentionings from the start. That way, people won't be (less lightly) mentioning them years later.
Is that so heinous?
Let me further clarify.
Sometimes, Bee and I get annoyed with something that the other does. When this happens, we casually mention to each other that it hurts our feelings when the other does this... or it makes us so mad when the other does this... and the person being told this carefully thinks out what the other is saying and makes a mental reminder of it so that they can remember not to act that way around them.
The result if this is that we get along well with each other no matter what.
It's not like you're being asked to rearrange your DNA. All I'm every trying to say is, "hey, it kind of gets on my nerves when you act this way", or "hey, it really kind of hurts my feelings when you do this over and over again."
It's not even a matter of 'I demand you to change this or else no one will like you'. People already like you, or they wouldn't have been your friend from the start. It's just a slight change of attitude; instead of taking these things as personal offenses against your being, take them as light mentionings from the start. That way, people won't be (less lightly) mentioning them years later.
Is that so heinous?