Speak No Evil
Ever notice how roughly 98-99.9% of relationships go down the shitter after a couple months? Like at first it's all "Ooooh he's the oooone!" and "I can't live without her!" ...it's complete bull. I feel like this is because people project unrealistic expectations for the future too early on, and then HOW can anyone live up to that? Now I, by no means am exempt from doing what I just described. But I feel like it's about damn time I learn from my mistakes in past relationships and put what I've learned to good use in my current one(s). Take for example, Pat and I: I'm pretty sure we like each other a whole lot, we spend a good amount of time together, and we hook up sometimes. However, we've already had the 'what's the label for what we're doing?' chat, and I refused to answer his question. For the first time in my life, even though I like him as more than a make-out-pal, I'm completely content to not dive head first into a relationship. I feel like maybe if I don't put all my eggs in one basket, my chances of being hurt again will be slightly lower. I realize that relationships aren't like statistics, but I'm happy right now, and I feel like if we decide we're 'dating' or even (gasp) boyfriend/girlfriend... things will have no choice but to start sucking. Once there's a term put on things, especially if that term is 'girlfriend', the guy starts to resent the girl and want his 'freedom' back even though, in reality, nothing has changed but the title. Soooo I've rambled long enough, my point is: rage against the label.