Hunh? There's a trick? I don't know. First I tried my best to write good sex scenes. Failed a few times. Tried again. Got a little better. Now I have a better awareness of what is going on with sex scenes, but it's almost like it's too much and I feel like I'm starting further back than when I was starting with no experience. LOL.
Some of it is just getting into the heads of the characters and figuring out what they would do and some of it is figuring out what they and I can negotiate that is sexy. I don't even know if that makes any sense.
I am sorry I have not checked in with you at all today. I am a little under the weather and really wanted to get to that writing today, which I did, and also made lasagna, read to DD1's class, ran an errand, and took kids to the library. I'm home for a couple more hours and then we go dancing. I guess I'm expected to rustle up dinner.
Oh, the way you phrased it up there made me think you were asking something different.
I think some of it was that people asked for NC17 fics for prompts and I wanted to be able to write for them. And then I had a couple people I felt I could ask for help with writing sex scenes, so I guess it was a combination of factors. Also, I think that as I became more comfortable writing, it became easier. Please note that I don't think I'm a good writer yet. I feel that what I scratch out is merely adequate most of the time.
Oh god. I did make lasagna, but I'm the only one who eats it. Don't even ask. That was lunch anyway:D
Er, I hope that I've not let you down when you asked for help when you desperately needed it. I don't think I'd say, "do it yourself," at the very least. If I couldn't help it would be more along the lines of "can't do it right now."
Asking for help is the same as my not posting octopus quilts in KB? For me, I just felt it wasn't appropriate. Not asking for help doesn't seem the same, but maybe it is. You can always ask for help; people always have the right to say "no". Same goes in reverse. People can always ask you for something; you can always say no. <3 <3 <3
Oh my god. I can't believe how much your family fails to support you. It boggles my mind. I feel so enormously lucky with my family.
Yeah, I can see that, both points.
I think in fandom people are rarely counting coup, if that is the right term. I mean, I try to help people when I can and I ask for help when I need it, but I don't expect that anyone can help me at the drop of a hat either.
I think if you are up front with people and they know what the situation is, you will find that some people (many) won't care. They like to support people. I know I do.
*smooch* Ok, I'm getting off the computer to put my lasagna away and go do some quilting :D
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Some of it is just getting into the heads of the characters and figuring out what they would do and some of it is figuring out what they and I can negotiate that is sexy. I don't even know if that makes any sense.
I am sorry I have not checked in with you at all today. I am a little under the weather and really wanted to get to that writing today, which I did, and also made lasagna, read to DD1's class, ran an errand, and took kids to the library. I'm home for a couple more hours and then we go dancing. I guess I'm expected to rustle up dinner.
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I think some of it was that people asked for NC17 fics for prompts and I wanted to be able to write for them. And then I had a couple people I felt I could ask for help with writing sex scenes, so I guess it was a combination of factors. Also, I think that as I became more comfortable writing, it became easier. Please note that I don't think I'm a good writer yet. I feel that what I scratch out is merely adequate most of the time.
Oh god. I did make lasagna, but I'm the only one who eats it. Don't even ask. That was lunch anyway:D
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Oh no. I like making a big pan of lasagna. Then I have lunch for myself for two weeks! I will freeze half of it. Mmmm.
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Asking for help is the same as my not posting octopus quilts in KB? For me, I just felt it wasn't appropriate. Not asking for help doesn't seem the same, but maybe it is. You can always ask for help; people always have the right to say "no". Same goes in reverse. People can always ask you for something; you can always say no. <3 <3 <3
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Yeah, I can see that, both points.
I think in fandom people are rarely counting coup, if that is the right term. I mean, I try to help people when I can and I ask for help when I need it, but I don't expect that anyone can help me at the drop of a hat either.
I think if you are up front with people and they know what the situation is, you will find that some people (many) won't care. They like to support people. I know I do.
*smooch* Ok, I'm getting off the computer to put my lasagna away and go do some quilting :D
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