Don't EVER feel dumb for caring, you may just have to adjust your technique
anonymous
September 20 2003, 05:32:16 UTC
Dear LM - Your heart is in the right place, unfortunately your "audience" sounds like she doesn't appreciate being cared for in this way. That does NOT mean, however, that she doesn't appreciate you for who you are (the wonderful person who is her friend
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Jeff, You are an amazing person, don't let anyone EVER make you feel like you are less. This girl is lucky to have someone like you. Many times, people find themselves in relationships where they don't have that kind of person who looks after them, cares for them, worries about them, etc. This girl doesn't realize how lucky she is because she is IN this relationship. She's not looking at it from the other point of view. You need to understand that the person who has whatever type of issue can't really see their issue....just the person "pestering" them about it. You took psychology, Jeff----you know about denial and sub-conscious feelings and such. You should continue to be there for her and worry when you think necessary, just also try and see things from her point of view. If it gets to the point where she is completely not deserving of this kind of care, then maybe she should not be the one to get it. But until then, and always, stay true to yourself, your character, and your feelings.
yes things are better mostly, ive just been busy..or avoiding ljing. Thank you for the advice, but this is weird.. anyway im going to get back to normal ljing soon i think
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You are an amazing person, don't let anyone EVER make you feel like you are less. This girl is lucky to have someone like you. Many times, people find themselves in relationships where they don't have that kind of person who looks after them, cares for them, worries about them, etc. This girl doesn't realize how lucky she is because she is IN this relationship. She's not looking at it from the other point of view. You need to understand that the person who has whatever type of issue can't really see their issue....just the person "pestering" them about it. You took psychology, Jeff----you know about denial and sub-conscious feelings and such. You should continue to be there for her and worry when you think necessary, just also try and see things from her point of view. If it gets to the point where she is completely not deserving of this kind of care, then maybe she should not be the one to get it. But until then, and always, stay true to yourself, your character, and your feelings.
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