confuzzled.
I feel like a horrible person. I'm dating this wonderful woman, who is absolutely gorgeous and funny and smart, but lately, I just haven't been feeling into the relationship. I've been blaming it on stress at work and school, but she just sent me a message on facebook saying that her parents want to have me over to dinner to get to know me better, and I really don't want to do it. But I've already met her parents; they're very nice. Sometimes I just feel like we're moving too fast and that she likes me way more than I like her.
And I'm mad at myself because it makes me feel like I have commitment problems, but the other night she slipped up and said "I love you". We've haven't even been together for a month. So now I'm having second thoughts, but I feel bad because I'm having them, and I kinda want to break up with her, but I don't want to do it right before the holidays, 'cause I'd want to murder someone if he/she did that to me.
But I'm not happy. Right now, it's feeling more like a chore than anything else. But I haven't been in a relationship in almost a year, so am I just having trouble adjusting to the fact that I'm not single anymore? Because I've been flirting with people at work unconsciously (who have been flirting back), and when I realize it, part of me is upset at myself, but the other half wants to keep flirting.
Plus, I'm a very independent person, and she wants to spend every waking moment with me, but she lives in Oakland, which is more gas than I want to waste every day, and I always have to drive up to see her. Sometimes it feels like she likes me more, but I have to make all the effort. She doesn't understand how strapped my finances are right now.
I just...ugh. I'm frustrated and I don't know if I should wait until after the holidays when work starts to slow down and classes get out, or if I should end it now and spare myself. Either way, I'm not going to be happy. Help?
And I'm mad at myself because it makes me feel like I have commitment problems, but the other night she slipped up and said "I love you". We've haven't even been together for a month. So now I'm having second thoughts, but I feel bad because I'm having them, and I kinda want to break up with her, but I don't want to do it right before the holidays, 'cause I'd want to murder someone if he/she did that to me.
But I'm not happy. Right now, it's feeling more like a chore than anything else. But I haven't been in a relationship in almost a year, so am I just having trouble adjusting to the fact that I'm not single anymore? Because I've been flirting with people at work unconsciously (who have been flirting back), and when I realize it, part of me is upset at myself, but the other half wants to keep flirting.
Plus, I'm a very independent person, and she wants to spend every waking moment with me, but she lives in Oakland, which is more gas than I want to waste every day, and I always have to drive up to see her. Sometimes it feels like she likes me more, but I have to make all the effort. She doesn't understand how strapped my finances are right now.
I just...ugh. I'm frustrated and I don't know if I should wait until after the holidays when work starts to slow down and classes get out, or if I should end it now and spare myself. Either way, I'm not going to be happy. Help?