I've been watching too much of Sexy In The CIty
How do men and women date if we're so different?
On so many levels I have contemplated this question, as I'm sure other females have as well. Men and women seem to have just enough in common to be able to relate long enough to force intimacy. Rarely does this seem like it should work. Primarily we want different things, in life, in daily activities, in a choice of what to watch on television. Sure there are the coincidences or flukes rather were two people of the opposite sex come together but how often does that really happen? The worst are the faux girls. The ones who have trained themselves to be girly-elegant and tasteful all while spewing out sport facts to sports they've never played but have learned to watch.
We all have patterns. I've noticed that I will sense things and ask questions; questions which I want to hear only one answer but I know he wants a different one. Yet I still push and ask. I know this will alter my mood significantly and that men are too dense to answer with the right answer. Is reciprocating sensing of what I want really that hard? This may seem selfish, and to an extent I agree. However, when one person is doing all of the sensing and unwilling conceding it aids to the stock piling resentment. Then I conclude how irrational I am being, and since I am a woman all of my behavior that isn't 100% reasonable must be complete chaos and irrationality, right? I mean society tells me so...
All this thinking has in the end not gotten me anywhere. I am right back where I've started. Secretly annoyed and not going to stay shit about it- because there is no rational in that after all. I've learned important thing, which sometime I forget about like a pair of cute open-toed heels that you forget you have each winter till the summer. Don't rely on men, don't trust or depend on them. Side with your friends, go out with them- place yourself around the opposite sex at crucial well timed scenarios. Not that I'm a huge negator for anti-love, but rather seriously it's not just that men suck it's just that men and women trying to come together will always- in some aspects- fall short. Go have fun with your friends first and for most then fallback on your lover.
If you don't have a fall back lover, consider yourself emotionally more stable and probably more fun.
On so many levels I have contemplated this question, as I'm sure other females have as well. Men and women seem to have just enough in common to be able to relate long enough to force intimacy. Rarely does this seem like it should work. Primarily we want different things, in life, in daily activities, in a choice of what to watch on television. Sure there are the coincidences or flukes rather were two people of the opposite sex come together but how often does that really happen? The worst are the faux girls. The ones who have trained themselves to be girly-elegant and tasteful all while spewing out sport facts to sports they've never played but have learned to watch.
We all have patterns. I've noticed that I will sense things and ask questions; questions which I want to hear only one answer but I know he wants a different one. Yet I still push and ask. I know this will alter my mood significantly and that men are too dense to answer with the right answer. Is reciprocating sensing of what I want really that hard? This may seem selfish, and to an extent I agree. However, when one person is doing all of the sensing and unwilling conceding it aids to the stock piling resentment. Then I conclude how irrational I am being, and since I am a woman all of my behavior that isn't 100% reasonable must be complete chaos and irrationality, right? I mean society tells me so...
All this thinking has in the end not gotten me anywhere. I am right back where I've started. Secretly annoyed and not going to stay shit about it- because there is no rational in that after all. I've learned important thing, which sometime I forget about like a pair of cute open-toed heels that you forget you have each winter till the summer. Don't rely on men, don't trust or depend on them. Side with your friends, go out with them- place yourself around the opposite sex at crucial well timed scenarios. Not that I'm a huge negator for anti-love, but rather seriously it's not just that men suck it's just that men and women trying to come together will always- in some aspects- fall short. Go have fun with your friends first and for most then fallback on your lover.
If you don't have a fall back lover, consider yourself emotionally more stable and probably more fun.