Last-ditch call for help
Hey, all. I'm needing help with something. I have a friend who's escaped her mentally and emotionally abusive, manipulative, and controlling husband. She and her two small children are currently residing with me. Well, he's demanding to see the children and while she HAS filed for an ex parte order of protection (with provisions for full custody, , it's not been granted yet. There's a court date coming up in a few weeks. He's promised to give her some money for diapers and stuff for the kids (not holding our breath). The little girl (4 years old) has stopped asking for her father at this point and refuses to even talk to him on the phone. The little boy (2 years old) keeps asking about him and has started with some separation anxiety. For the most part, he will not let his mother leave his sight for more than 2 seconds or he completely melts down. I'm sure that part of it is his age. I'm fairly certain that quite a bit of this is because his life has been completely turned upside down. Would a visit be useful or beneficial? I don't know. However, it's not my call. Ultimately, it's her call. I just want to make sure it's done as safely as possible. Here's where the help comes in: I would like a couple of people to be with her, preferably female, as to be 'non-threatening'. Women that can kick ass if need be would be awesome. People ungendered and transgendered are also welcome. The main thing here is to keep my friend and her kids as safe as can be in this situation. My friend will have her court paperwork stating her court date and the other information and I plan on calling the Independence Center Security Office to give them a heads-up of the situation. So, does anyone have any time tomorrow around 6 where they can go to Independence Center with my friend and her kids? If I don't already, I'll love you forever if you do this. I don't want to be there because I don't want him to connect me to any of this and end up coming to my home.
Open call for help!
If you think this whole thing is a really bad idea, please don't post. I don't think this is a good idea, myself. I'm not the one that's making the decisions here, though. It's not my choice. All I can do is help and offer support, and that's what I've been doing. (Along with offering a WHOLE LOT of unsolicited advice.) Even if you think you're being helpful and telling us what we SHOULD be doing, just don't. Thanks!
Open call for help!
If you think this whole thing is a really bad idea, please don't post. I don't think this is a good idea, myself. I'm not the one that's making the decisions here, though. It's not my choice. All I can do is help and offer support, and that's what I've been doing. (Along with offering a WHOLE LOT of unsolicited advice.) Even if you think you're being helpful and telling us what we SHOULD be doing, just don't. Thanks!