The Male Perspective
I think there's a lot of confusion between the genders. I was chatting with some people about our respective relationship situations and we started reminiscing on all the things that have happened to us. We started talking about the stuff that women had done over the course of our life that just made no damn sense. It made me start to wonder if really men and women just made a lot of assumptions about each other.
Here's something that's weird to me:
Some girls have been known to say "my life is too confusing right now" or "things are too complicated right now" response to a request for a date. I've been told by friends of mine not to even admit feelings for a girl because 'she's got a lot of things going on.' Maybe Hitch is right, maybe that is just 'try harder, stupid' which would be wonderful. But if that is a 'legitimate' reason to not date, I don't understand it. To me, and perhaps there are other men who would agree, a woman expressing interest is rarely bad. And when I say 'rarely' I mean it. It doesn't matter if I'm working 3 jobs, trying to support kid, going to school, while still struggling in a band because I still think 'someday, we're gonna make it' a week after being dumped by a girlfriend because she thought she was a lesbian only to discover a week later she was really just interested in another guy. A friend telling me she's interested in me makes me feel great! Even if I'm not interested, it still makes me feel good.
Oh, here's another one:
Any single person who has ever heard this phrase: "Why can't I meet someone like you?" What the fuck?! I AM someone like me by definition. In fact, you can't get more like me than I am. The only situation is if I'm otherwise committed in a relationship. But that's it. In no other situation does that sound appealing to me. Cause in any other situation it sounds like you're lying to me. Obviously you want someone better than me, otherwise, we'd be going out.
And what about this:
"You're too good for me." To me, that's not a reason to end a relationship with someone. If I were dating a girl who was 'too good for me' I'd hold on to her. There's obviously something that isn't matching up. The only way that'd make sense to me is if that's a way of saying "you're too celibate for me." I'd much rather be told where we're too different to keep dating. That way I can decide if you're crazy or if I'm crazy.
These are just some of the things I don't quite understand. Oh well, maybe with time.
And now for something completely different:
Here's something that's weird to me:
Some girls have been known to say "my life is too confusing right now" or "things are too complicated right now" response to a request for a date. I've been told by friends of mine not to even admit feelings for a girl because 'she's got a lot of things going on.' Maybe Hitch is right, maybe that is just 'try harder, stupid' which would be wonderful. But if that is a 'legitimate' reason to not date, I don't understand it. To me, and perhaps there are other men who would agree, a woman expressing interest is rarely bad. And when I say 'rarely' I mean it. It doesn't matter if I'm working 3 jobs, trying to support kid, going to school, while still struggling in a band because I still think 'someday, we're gonna make it' a week after being dumped by a girlfriend because she thought she was a lesbian only to discover a week later she was really just interested in another guy. A friend telling me she's interested in me makes me feel great! Even if I'm not interested, it still makes me feel good.
Oh, here's another one:
Any single person who has ever heard this phrase: "Why can't I meet someone like you?" What the fuck?! I AM someone like me by definition. In fact, you can't get more like me than I am. The only situation is if I'm otherwise committed in a relationship. But that's it. In no other situation does that sound appealing to me. Cause in any other situation it sounds like you're lying to me. Obviously you want someone better than me, otherwise, we'd be going out.
And what about this:
"You're too good for me." To me, that's not a reason to end a relationship with someone. If I were dating a girl who was 'too good for me' I'd hold on to her. There's obviously something that isn't matching up. The only way that'd make sense to me is if that's a way of saying "you're too celibate for me." I'd much rather be told where we're too different to keep dating. That way I can decide if you're crazy or if I'm crazy.
These are just some of the things I don't quite understand. Oh well, maybe with time.
And now for something completely different: