Ugh.. my sister.
I sit here trying to convince myself that I am NOT tired, I am NOT sleepy. I have been in a family good mood today. The drive to work was nice because I took my time as opposed to try to pass every car there is on the roads at 6 in the morning. That when it dawned on me. I am a pushover for when it comes to my sister, and I forgot how much of one I have been with her before. She is an adult now but part of me still babies her and makes sure that she is taken care of, but part of me also is bothered but something is holding me back from telling her to get off her ass, I think is because I don't want her to get mad and take things the wrong way.
My sis has basically lived with us for about a week now and I let it go for this long. She is basically living with us for FREE it seems. I don't even remembering us uttering the words FREE to her when offering her to stay over with us. She doesn't do anything to help around the house. I think for the most part I have seen her cook something small and I have seen her laying around the house because she was tired. Granted that she works strange hours at the hospital as a Unit Secretary and that those days are usually 12 hour days, but that is usually on Fridays and the weekends! The rest of the week, nothing gets done. She hasn't even gone back to my parents house to get the rest of her clothes, she has been using our water along with some of our clothes that she throws in with hers...all for what she thinks is FREE. I mean at least let us know that our laundry is in there. Don't leave it in there and get it all wrinkled up. She has yet to offer to buy groceries, she eats our food with no problem. I mean I don't mind it tremendously but it is starting to itch at me. I mean jeez.. at least offer to do something. She is my sister and we will support her, I just want her to do her share of responsibilities, somehow. I don't know why it is difficult for me to tell her that, I think it is because I don't want her to think that I am attacking her, which is basically what she thinks the rest of the family has done already anyways, plus she has been going thru a lot of crap, so I don't wanna be too harsh on her.
I don't understand my sister sometimes. She comes home really early in the morning, around 5, 6, 7 ish in the morning. She had just worked a 12 hour or so shift. She has a child that she needs to take care of. How does she get her sleep and take care of her son? She lays around in bed, falling in and out of sleep, letting her son run about til her husband comes home after his shift at 2:00 pm!! He works the days she works the nites. Well, she and her husband will not be together anymore. Things will change. I should talk abt that in another paragraph. So as soon as I got home yesterday from work, I had with my Molly and my nephew, Jordan, whom I take care of 3 times a week. My sister got home early in the morning from work and she had Donny with her. I guess that they will have to switch off on who will have him. She kept telling me a couple times that she didn't get to go to sleep from the time that she got home yet because he was at a new place again. I was starting to notice her getting really irritable and snappy at him so I stepped in and offered to take care of Donovan so that she could a little nap. So there I was with 3 kids. Whoa!! let's just say that it has inspired me NOT to have more than 2 kids. Little did I know that she wasn't gonna be up til 2 hours after she had told me to wake her up, (Which I did)
The kids were great yesterday. I had a lot of fun with them. I had them finger paint, which was a first for Donovan, so he had a blast. I ran around the house chasing after them while I attempted to tickle them, I even let them jump on the sofa cushions that I threw on the floor, it was funny how they kept saying Boing as they jumped, While Donovan said Oing. They loved it when I put chairs together and draped blankets over them just to make a tent. They especially gotta kick out of me pretending to be a bear charging at their tent. They had a lot of fun and I did as well, I kinda paid for it at the end of the nite when my neck and back gave out. You would think at the end of the nite that I would of ran out of energy, instead I couldn't get to sleep so I was up til 1:00 a.m.
I tried the best I could to get Donovan to do things differently around the house. Every time he would do something wrong I would pull him aside and talk to him about how to do something, as opposed to yelling at him constantly like my sister. I sat there and taught him how to say certain things instead of having to whine for something. He actually is a great kid. He just needs to be talked to, not yelled at. As long as my sis is living with us, I will try my best at trying to teach Donovan a lot of things. I am not there to change him, rather, I am there to better him. He will be 3 in November and a lot of what he does is a lot different compared to a lot of kids his age.
Today is the day that they are gonna do it. My sister and brother in law are basically done battling so now they are going to get the divorce final. The thing is that they are such young children. The way that they are doing it is filing for irreconcilable differences. They are going to draw up the appropriate paperwork. "Hey, it's only $20", my sister says! My fuckin god. She says it will be a clean break. In all honesty, with the bullshit that my brother in law has pulled I don't know if it will be as easy as she thinks it will be. My bro in law tried soo hard, he has basically has given up with trying to hold onto something that he didn't really have anymore, which was my sister. My sister is in the mindset that she is through. She has basically given up way before my bro in law has. It tears me up that it has come to this. I just wish that she would of tried harder. How could you have stuck with someone for 3 yrs and honestly be able to sit there and say that you never loved them? That basically means you wasted that many years of your life lying to yourself. All of this has been unfortunate. he person that is really getting affected here is my poor little nephew. It's a damn shame, all because his parents were too young when they had him and that they have also been very selfish, now they just wanna throw everything that they built together away, like none of it meant anything. One fact remains from all of that, they have their son. That right there should of been the source of inspiration to work hard at making it work. Somehow I wish that this didn't have to resolve to this. It depresses me thoroughly. I just wish that it didn't have to be like this.
My sis has basically lived with us for about a week now and I let it go for this long. She is basically living with us for FREE it seems. I don't even remembering us uttering the words FREE to her when offering her to stay over with us. She doesn't do anything to help around the house. I think for the most part I have seen her cook something small and I have seen her laying around the house because she was tired. Granted that she works strange hours at the hospital as a Unit Secretary and that those days are usually 12 hour days, but that is usually on Fridays and the weekends! The rest of the week, nothing gets done. She hasn't even gone back to my parents house to get the rest of her clothes, she has been using our water along with some of our clothes that she throws in with hers...all for what she thinks is FREE. I mean at least let us know that our laundry is in there. Don't leave it in there and get it all wrinkled up. She has yet to offer to buy groceries, she eats our food with no problem. I mean I don't mind it tremendously but it is starting to itch at me. I mean jeez.. at least offer to do something. She is my sister and we will support her, I just want her to do her share of responsibilities, somehow. I don't know why it is difficult for me to tell her that, I think it is because I don't want her to think that I am attacking her, which is basically what she thinks the rest of the family has done already anyways, plus she has been going thru a lot of crap, so I don't wanna be too harsh on her.
I don't understand my sister sometimes. She comes home really early in the morning, around 5, 6, 7 ish in the morning. She had just worked a 12 hour or so shift. She has a child that she needs to take care of. How does she get her sleep and take care of her son? She lays around in bed, falling in and out of sleep, letting her son run about til her husband comes home after his shift at 2:00 pm!! He works the days she works the nites. Well, she and her husband will not be together anymore. Things will change. I should talk abt that in another paragraph. So as soon as I got home yesterday from work, I had with my Molly and my nephew, Jordan, whom I take care of 3 times a week. My sister got home early in the morning from work and she had Donny with her. I guess that they will have to switch off on who will have him. She kept telling me a couple times that she didn't get to go to sleep from the time that she got home yet because he was at a new place again. I was starting to notice her getting really irritable and snappy at him so I stepped in and offered to take care of Donovan so that she could a little nap. So there I was with 3 kids. Whoa!! let's just say that it has inspired me NOT to have more than 2 kids. Little did I know that she wasn't gonna be up til 2 hours after she had told me to wake her up, (Which I did)
The kids were great yesterday. I had a lot of fun with them. I had them finger paint, which was a first for Donovan, so he had a blast. I ran around the house chasing after them while I attempted to tickle them, I even let them jump on the sofa cushions that I threw on the floor, it was funny how they kept saying Boing as they jumped, While Donovan said Oing. They loved it when I put chairs together and draped blankets over them just to make a tent. They especially gotta kick out of me pretending to be a bear charging at their tent. They had a lot of fun and I did as well, I kinda paid for it at the end of the nite when my neck and back gave out. You would think at the end of the nite that I would of ran out of energy, instead I couldn't get to sleep so I was up til 1:00 a.m.
I tried the best I could to get Donovan to do things differently around the house. Every time he would do something wrong I would pull him aside and talk to him about how to do something, as opposed to yelling at him constantly like my sister. I sat there and taught him how to say certain things instead of having to whine for something. He actually is a great kid. He just needs to be talked to, not yelled at. As long as my sis is living with us, I will try my best at trying to teach Donovan a lot of things. I am not there to change him, rather, I am there to better him. He will be 3 in November and a lot of what he does is a lot different compared to a lot of kids his age.
Today is the day that they are gonna do it. My sister and brother in law are basically done battling so now they are going to get the divorce final. The thing is that they are such young children. The way that they are doing it is filing for irreconcilable differences. They are going to draw up the appropriate paperwork. "Hey, it's only $20", my sister says! My fuckin god. She says it will be a clean break. In all honesty, with the bullshit that my brother in law has pulled I don't know if it will be as easy as she thinks it will be. My bro in law tried soo hard, he has basically has given up with trying to hold onto something that he didn't really have anymore, which was my sister. My sister is in the mindset that she is through. She has basically given up way before my bro in law has. It tears me up that it has come to this. I just wish that she would of tried harder. How could you have stuck with someone for 3 yrs and honestly be able to sit there and say that you never loved them? That basically means you wasted that many years of your life lying to yourself. All of this has been unfortunate. he person that is really getting affected here is my poor little nephew. It's a damn shame, all because his parents were too young when they had him and that they have also been very selfish, now they just wanna throw everything that they built together away, like none of it meant anything. One fact remains from all of that, they have their son. That right there should of been the source of inspiration to work hard at making it work. Somehow I wish that this didn't have to resolve to this. It depresses me thoroughly. I just wish that it didn't have to be like this.