...So I should just stay home all the time now?

[jaune_chat]

Ooooo.... kay.

So... something just happened that was not good. I'd like to talk about it.

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[game_byrd]

Unless they've reinstituted slavery while I wasn't looking, he's not entitled to your time, your attention, or your love, no matter how far he moved. That you have enjoyed sharing those with him in the past does not allow him to appropriate them in future. It's not a thing he owns; it's a thing you happen to share with him when you are moved to do so. Even if he gives you a kidney and saves your life, he can hope for gratitude, not the right to run your life.

He needs to do some growing up.

I'd suggest you establish some boundaries by continuing with the writing club exactly as before and let him learn to wear big boy pants. Tell him, 'I value the opportunity to get better as a writer. I enjoy the meetings and will be attending them every XXX date. If you continue to be angry about me attending the writer's club, then I will feel resentful and what time we have together will be more strained.' Make your attendance non-negotiable. What's up to him to decide is how much he sabotages his relationship with you over it. That's all his decision - entirely his.

(Of course, this being said by someone who divorced an abusive prick and sees no reason why people should stay in relationships that aren't working for them. Don't let him use your love for him as leverage against you.)