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Relationships. What's up with that???
I have met and watched many successful couples (this is a point of interest for me, as my own parents never got along and eventually divorced). The two qualities I notice most often are these:
1) An Acceptance of the fact that they're together.
2) A mutual willingness to work with each other to make the damn thing work.
So many successful couples, those who just seem to be meant to be together, have told me (even when together!) that it takes a lot of work...every day.
One friend of mine in particular, he's about 60 and I'll say happily married. He often advises others with their relationships, has the respect of a LOT of people in this regard, and I remember once telling him about two friends of mine who kept breaking up and getting back together; his response was, "Eh, it's a waste of time." Hearing that validated what I already felt about stupid drama, but had never given voice to. It was a major major confirmation.
What's especially interesting is that I sometimes hang out with him and his wife, and they argue and fight all the time! That quality was not what I would have thought of as "the ideal pairing". But they're also best friends, they balance each other and they have a very strong bond.
I have met and watched many successful couples (this is a point of interest for me, as my own parents never got along and eventually divorced). The two qualities I notice most often are these:
1) An Acceptance of the fact that they're together.
2) A mutual willingness to work with each other to make the damn thing work.
So many successful couples, those who just seem to be meant to be together, have told me (even when together!) that it takes a lot of work...every day.
One friend of mine in particular, he's about 60 and I'll say happily married. He often advises others with their relationships, has the respect of a LOT of people in this regard, and I remember once telling him about two friends of mine who kept breaking up and getting back together; his response was, "Eh, it's a waste of time." Hearing that validated what I already felt about stupid drama, but had never given voice to. It was a major major confirmation.
What's especially interesting is that I sometimes hang out with him and his wife, and they argue and fight all the time! That quality was not what I would have thought of as "the ideal pairing". But they're also best friends, they balance each other and they have a very strong bond.