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supershort, typing on handhld (jari+stylus=faail)...my friend sometimes gets inexplicably sullen. i always think its omething i didd though its prolly not--hard to tell because any attepts to communicate ge angry monosyllabic answers and/or storming off. in short im afraid to talk to him. i bring it up cause maybe you know someone like this.?
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Giving space is almost always a good thing. Let's them know you respect them and their decision of silence, and that you love them enough to be there when they need you. Also takes off pressure of talking about something they may not be ready to vocalize.
Possible that this may be something they want to talk about but can't, which is another good thing about giving them space.
I know when I get that way (because it happens often) I don't feel deserved to be talked or listened to.
This is a weird way of going about it, but possibly necessary. I wouldn't recommend but for a last resort: Corner them, quickly, and say "look, it seems to me you're acting strange, I'm worried about you. I care for you and am here for you. Always remember that. Whatever you need, you got it." Simple as this. May be very confrontational, so try to do it when no one else is around and they aren't too down in the muck. Also, as I said before, be brief and too the point. Not too much emotion, an easy "I have something to say about how you're acting and I want to voice it." Remember the "I" statement so you don't have the whole "he thinks I'm weird! So does everyone else!" complex down the road. It's you're opinion, not a "fact", whether it's the truth or not.
I hope this was helpful
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