Question #1
What do you say to people who ask you this question..."but if you had to choose which way would you go, top or bottom?"
My short answer to this is "yes". Depending on the seriousness of the question and the tone of their voice, I will attempt to explain more. If it is a condescending Domly Dom, then "yes" is usually all that they get.
The longer version: The way I play does not define who I am. I enjoy playing in different roles, just like in my vanilla life, I take on different roles. I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, an employee, and a student, to name a few. There is no way that I could choose between those roles, any more than I could choose between top and bottom. It is all part of the things that make up the person who I am.
And if I want to put it back on them: Do you honestly think that I should compromise myself to fit into one or the other just so other people will be more comfortable?
My short answer to this is "yes". Depending on the seriousness of the question and the tone of their voice, I will attempt to explain more. If it is a condescending Domly Dom, then "yes" is usually all that they get.
The longer version: The way I play does not define who I am. I enjoy playing in different roles, just like in my vanilla life, I take on different roles. I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, an employee, and a student, to name a few. There is no way that I could choose between those roles, any more than I could choose between top and bottom. It is all part of the things that make up the person who I am.
And if I want to put it back on them: Do you honestly think that I should compromise myself to fit into one or the other just so other people will be more comfortable?