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I had an interesting argument with my family last night. The premise was what to say when a girl asks if she "looks fat."
I believe when a girl says she looks fat she's really feeling insecure about herself. I would ask what is really bothering her to get to the root of the problem instead of giving her an empty compliment. My parents and my sister say thats the worst thing you can do. They feel if a girl asks that she's looking for complimentary reinforcement. They accused me of being insensitive and not caring about what the girl thinks. Look, if a girl asks me if she looks fat that I would never say "ya honey, please loose some weight" that would be mean! Guys have been trained to say "ya you look fine", but thats just the easy way out. Something is probably bothering her other than her weight so my solution would be to talk about the issue that's hurting her self-confidence. What does every one think about this? Getting to the root of the problem or giving her an empty compliment?
I believe when a girl says she looks fat she's really feeling insecure about herself. I would ask what is really bothering her to get to the root of the problem instead of giving her an empty compliment. My parents and my sister say thats the worst thing you can do. They feel if a girl asks that she's looking for complimentary reinforcement. They accused me of being insensitive and not caring about what the girl thinks. Look, if a girl asks me if she looks fat that I would never say "ya honey, please loose some weight" that would be mean! Guys have been trained to say "ya you look fine", but thats just the easy way out. Something is probably bothering her other than her weight so my solution would be to talk about the issue that's hurting her self-confidence. What does every one think about this? Getting to the root of the problem or giving her an empty compliment?