Question...please respond...
So, I'm talking to Ben and we're having a very interesting conversation about the differences between guys and girls when it comes to talking all the way through to sexual matters. I'd like you're guys in put on how you feel about this subject. I'm trying to figure out how to word this, and I can't, so here's our convo...
We're talking about talking to random people of the opposite sex....
Jahms2475: but yer a girl...its different
Jahms2475: things are WAY easier for a girl
Janellifers: yeah, trying to figure out if a guy likes you, what's going on in his head, how far things are gonna happen between you, worrying about mixed messages, trying to look perfect for them and then them not noticing or not caring, yeah...that's TONS easier...i think not...
Janellifers: i can go on more too...
Jahms2475: yes but girls talkin to guys is easier then guys to girl
Janellifers: um...trust me, not really
Jahms2475: oh it is
Janellifers: how on earth did you come to that conclusion?
Jahms2475: ok...we will use sex as an example....a girl asks a guy and its a 99% chance of yes...but a guy asks a girl and its 90% chance of kick to the nuts
Janellifers: but see, in that case, they pretty much know how the other feels about them, when just talking, you have no clue
Jahms2475: yeah cuz the guy doesnt want to get shot down
Jahms2475: all girls have to do is ask
Janellifers: hey, some guys do shoot down girls
Jahms2475: and as for looks...i think a girl is most attractive at her most "unnatractive" times ie. sleeping, just after shower, in pjs
Jahms2475: like 3
My view is there is no difference, but the guys seem to always hold the cards. From my experience so far, I have no clue what is going on through guys' heads and it drives me insane. One thing that really bugs me is not knowing. For example if something happens, guys usually control the outcome cuz if something got that far, 98% of the time the girls want it to continue cuz they like the guy, but the guy might say "okay, I've done what I wanted to do, time to move on w/someone else" and not really want things to continue w/that girl. That isn't true w/all cases, but in college, it seems to be the norm. Therefore, it's easier for a guy to get the girl since they seem to be in control, which I might add is completely unfair, but they want to move on, where as the girl doesn't, they want that guy.
Ben's view is...
Jahms2475: its easier for girls to get guys then for guys to get girls
He doesn't have anything to back it up cuz he doesn't know how to explain it...but it's his view...
What are your thoughts? And just so you know, neither one of us are saying that guys or girls just want sex cuz that's not true. Neither of us want that. We both agree that it's an after thought and that we only want someone to be there for us as every relationship should be. Nothing should be all sexual stuff, it's not healthy. I feel it should be 50/50 between sexual stuff and non-sexual stuff. We're just referring to which is easier from a girls point of view, or a guys and why.
(side note to KC...feel free to use this as a topic for your column, :-) )
We're talking about talking to random people of the opposite sex....
Jahms2475: but yer a girl...its different
Jahms2475: things are WAY easier for a girl
Janellifers: yeah, trying to figure out if a guy likes you, what's going on in his head, how far things are gonna happen between you, worrying about mixed messages, trying to look perfect for them and then them not noticing or not caring, yeah...that's TONS easier...i think not...
Janellifers: i can go on more too...
Jahms2475: yes but girls talkin to guys is easier then guys to girl
Janellifers: um...trust me, not really
Jahms2475: oh it is
Janellifers: how on earth did you come to that conclusion?
Jahms2475: ok...we will use sex as an example....a girl asks a guy and its a 99% chance of yes...but a guy asks a girl and its 90% chance of kick to the nuts
Janellifers: but see, in that case, they pretty much know how the other feels about them, when just talking, you have no clue
Jahms2475: yeah cuz the guy doesnt want to get shot down
Jahms2475: all girls have to do is ask
Janellifers: hey, some guys do shoot down girls
Jahms2475: and as for looks...i think a girl is most attractive at her most "unnatractive" times ie. sleeping, just after shower, in pjs
Jahms2475: like 3
My view is there is no difference, but the guys seem to always hold the cards. From my experience so far, I have no clue what is going on through guys' heads and it drives me insane. One thing that really bugs me is not knowing. For example if something happens, guys usually control the outcome cuz if something got that far, 98% of the time the girls want it to continue cuz they like the guy, but the guy might say "okay, I've done what I wanted to do, time to move on w/someone else" and not really want things to continue w/that girl. That isn't true w/all cases, but in college, it seems to be the norm. Therefore, it's easier for a guy to get the girl since they seem to be in control, which I might add is completely unfair, but they want to move on, where as the girl doesn't, they want that guy.
Ben's view is...
Jahms2475: its easier for girls to get guys then for guys to get girls
He doesn't have anything to back it up cuz he doesn't know how to explain it...but it's his view...
What are your thoughts? And just so you know, neither one of us are saying that guys or girls just want sex cuz that's not true. Neither of us want that. We both agree that it's an after thought and that we only want someone to be there for us as every relationship should be. Nothing should be all sexual stuff, it's not healthy. I feel it should be 50/50 between sexual stuff and non-sexual stuff. We're just referring to which is easier from a girls point of view, or a guys and why.
(side note to KC...feel free to use this as a topic for your column, :-) )