GRRRRR!!!!!
There are days when I really wish I could take my neice and nephew to live with me. My brother and his wife have huge moments of being really crappy parents.
For about the last year my neice has been messing up. Shes 13 and is depressed has experimented with drugs and cutting herself. I've been trying to figure out why and making myself available for her to talk to about anything and whenever. The change from her normal self happened within a couple months and I kept trying to talk myself into beliving it was "normal" teenage shit while knowing it wasn't.
I think today I found out why. My neice was over to hang out and talk like we tend to do. She randomly started talking about when her mom tried to kill herself about 8 months ago... roughly a month before Bear(my neice) started acting up. She was telling me how she found her mom out cold, bleeding wrists and all, in the bathroom and had to call 911. She talked about it like I knew her mom had tried to kill herself. I had been told Jeri had had an allergic reaction to some meds. I admit I am gullible and didn't ask more.
They act like its Shana's fault she is acting up and yell at her constantly. I do mean constantly. However you cannot tell me that a 12 year old child finding her mom like that isn't traumatizing and wouldn't have this affect. I feel so awful for her. I wish I knew what I could do to help her other then doing what I'm doing. I promised her that if she told me something I would not run to her parents with it, with the exceptions of drugs, talking about suicide or if she was preggers. I know if I confront her parents with it she will see it as me not keeping that promise.
I really really want to go yell at them, and beat some sense into their heads.
For about the last year my neice has been messing up. Shes 13 and is depressed has experimented with drugs and cutting herself. I've been trying to figure out why and making myself available for her to talk to about anything and whenever. The change from her normal self happened within a couple months and I kept trying to talk myself into beliving it was "normal" teenage shit while knowing it wasn't.
I think today I found out why. My neice was over to hang out and talk like we tend to do. She randomly started talking about when her mom tried to kill herself about 8 months ago... roughly a month before Bear(my neice) started acting up. She was telling me how she found her mom out cold, bleeding wrists and all, in the bathroom and had to call 911. She talked about it like I knew her mom had tried to kill herself. I had been told Jeri had had an allergic reaction to some meds. I admit I am gullible and didn't ask more.
They act like its Shana's fault she is acting up and yell at her constantly. I do mean constantly. However you cannot tell me that a 12 year old child finding her mom like that isn't traumatizing and wouldn't have this affect. I feel so awful for her. I wish I knew what I could do to help her other then doing what I'm doing. I promised her that if she told me something I would not run to her parents with it, with the exceptions of drugs, talking about suicide or if she was preggers. I know if I confront her parents with it she will see it as me not keeping that promise.
I really really want to go yell at them, and beat some sense into their heads.