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I suppose it's my turn to tell my side of the story. This won't be a long as Marybeth's and Bo's so don't worry.
All of you know already that I think the world of my sister. I think she is the greatest thing since sliced bread. So, whenever my sister tells me that something bothers her about someone else, that's usually where it ends. She doesn't like to cause problems so she never says anything to the person. So her feelings just fester until she gets to vent to me. Me, being the person I am, will say something to someone if it bothers me. So, maybe it was not my place, but Marybeth wasn't going to say anything to Bo about what bothers her. I want the things that bother her to get fixed so she can be as happy as possible in a relationship, rather than just sweeping things under the carpet and pretending like those problems don't exist. I have tried to tell Marybeth that she just needs to go to Bo, or whoever the person might be that she is not happy with, but she won't. So, I took it upon myself to get the point across to Bo that maybe he should get over this jealousy thing because it's not a big deal for anyone else but him. I would never just come right out and say to Bo that he needs to straighten up and fly right, so I do it though mild jokes. If see the problems still are not fixed, maybe I will kick things up a notch. I know it is not my place, but I like to see my sister genuinely happy, not just "OK" until the next problem arises. So I apologize for ever getting in it in the first place when it clearly has nothing to do with me. Anyway, so when Bo says that I joke a lot about it and it gets under his skin, its true. Maybe I do do it too much, but he has not faced the fact that maybe he is the problem, and that if he would stop making my sister feel like she shouldn't go out then maybe I wouldn't joke anymore. I never directly said that Marybeth should be with another guy, but I'm not going to lie when I say that I think Marybeth can do better. She's my sister, and I will never think that anyone is good enough for her. Anyway, back to the main story. I don't even remember the exact comment I said to Bo, but I never said that Marybeth should be with another guy. So, I think he misunderstood what I was saying. Then he threw wine on me. To me, that's like pulling out a white glove, slapping the other person with it and declaring a duel. I was understandably mad. He said it was a joke, well no one else at the table thought so. Then he said that who was I too say what it funny and what is not, what he did was supposed to make everyone laugh, not pissed, so it's not his fault if I took it the wrong way. Well there is a big difference between poking fun at someone and throwing wine on someone. I'm sorry if I make Bo feel like crap sometimes but I do it because I want him to stop upsetting my sister in little ways. I'm tired of typing. So, I will wrap it up.
Bo- I'm sorry if what I said was out of line, I never meant to say that Marybeth should be with another guy. For right now, I don't want you in my apartment. You are always there. Even when Marybeth is not home. You are not paying rent, you are not a roommate, and because you are always there I think the formal lines that don't need to be crossed between sister, and sister's boyfriend have been crossed. We need to make the lines clear again, and you acting more like my sister's boyfriend and not a roommate would help. So, at least for now, I don't want you there, especially if Marybeth is not. Bo, I like you, but I think we have some personal issues now that are going to hinder the relationship between you any Marybeth. So, if you want to talk, we will talk.
All of you know already that I think the world of my sister. I think she is the greatest thing since sliced bread. So, whenever my sister tells me that something bothers her about someone else, that's usually where it ends. She doesn't like to cause problems so she never says anything to the person. So her feelings just fester until she gets to vent to me. Me, being the person I am, will say something to someone if it bothers me. So, maybe it was not my place, but Marybeth wasn't going to say anything to Bo about what bothers her. I want the things that bother her to get fixed so she can be as happy as possible in a relationship, rather than just sweeping things under the carpet and pretending like those problems don't exist. I have tried to tell Marybeth that she just needs to go to Bo, or whoever the person might be that she is not happy with, but she won't. So, I took it upon myself to get the point across to Bo that maybe he should get over this jealousy thing because it's not a big deal for anyone else but him. I would never just come right out and say to Bo that he needs to straighten up and fly right, so I do it though mild jokes. If see the problems still are not fixed, maybe I will kick things up a notch. I know it is not my place, but I like to see my sister genuinely happy, not just "OK" until the next problem arises. So I apologize for ever getting in it in the first place when it clearly has nothing to do with me. Anyway, so when Bo says that I joke a lot about it and it gets under his skin, its true. Maybe I do do it too much, but he has not faced the fact that maybe he is the problem, and that if he would stop making my sister feel like she shouldn't go out then maybe I wouldn't joke anymore. I never directly said that Marybeth should be with another guy, but I'm not going to lie when I say that I think Marybeth can do better. She's my sister, and I will never think that anyone is good enough for her. Anyway, back to the main story. I don't even remember the exact comment I said to Bo, but I never said that Marybeth should be with another guy. So, I think he misunderstood what I was saying. Then he threw wine on me. To me, that's like pulling out a white glove, slapping the other person with it and declaring a duel. I was understandably mad. He said it was a joke, well no one else at the table thought so. Then he said that who was I too say what it funny and what is not, what he did was supposed to make everyone laugh, not pissed, so it's not his fault if I took it the wrong way. Well there is a big difference between poking fun at someone and throwing wine on someone. I'm sorry if I make Bo feel like crap sometimes but I do it because I want him to stop upsetting my sister in little ways. I'm tired of typing. So, I will wrap it up.
Bo- I'm sorry if what I said was out of line, I never meant to say that Marybeth should be with another guy. For right now, I don't want you in my apartment. You are always there. Even when Marybeth is not home. You are not paying rent, you are not a roommate, and because you are always there I think the formal lines that don't need to be crossed between sister, and sister's boyfriend have been crossed. We need to make the lines clear again, and you acting more like my sister's boyfriend and not a roommate would help. So, at least for now, I don't want you there, especially if Marybeth is not. Bo, I like you, but I think we have some personal issues now that are going to hinder the relationship between you any Marybeth. So, if you want to talk, we will talk.