for totally!
Already, my dating pool is limited to subcultures of subcultures within subcultures. So, to include yet another prerequisite to my list feels almost as if I'm purposefully ghettoizing my sexuality. Yet, I have to live with the truth of my attraction. I could never be happy with someone who isn't fully on board with and understanding of my politics and my identities. It's just a fact of my existence that my dating pool will necessarily be small. -
bias_cut.
She was specifically talking about fat/size politics (I agree with hers), but this extends to all sorts of criteria-picking. I think I have a fear of seeming elitist in my dating preferences, but that's just my own insecurity about feeling "responsible" for my singleness.
i.e., yeah, I could be dating lots of people, and I could be having a lot of sex. But that's not what I'm interested in right now, and I think it's silly to compromise my beliefs in order to get ass. I could have gone home with that lady at the \aut\ bar last weekend who couldn't stop staring at me, but she wanted me for sex and not (necessarily) for sharing feelings and thoughts and stuff.
So yes, I suppose I'm single by choice in that respect, and I suppose it's fair for one to tell me to quit complaining about being single if I'm the one opting out of dating situations. But it's a matter of fulfillment and compatibility, really.
I'm looking for a someone who's mature, out, and race conscious (pocs and wocs a plus). Those are the non-negotiable things; other things I can work with. It's pretty sad how much that limits my dating field.
love
jaya
p.s. why is that so f*ing hard to find?? :p
bias_cut.
She was specifically talking about fat/size politics (I agree with hers), but this extends to all sorts of criteria-picking. I think I have a fear of seeming elitist in my dating preferences, but that's just my own insecurity about feeling "responsible" for my singleness.
i.e., yeah, I could be dating lots of people, and I could be having a lot of sex. But that's not what I'm interested in right now, and I think it's silly to compromise my beliefs in order to get ass. I could have gone home with that lady at the \aut\ bar last weekend who couldn't stop staring at me, but she wanted me for sex and not (necessarily) for sharing feelings and thoughts and stuff.
So yes, I suppose I'm single by choice in that respect, and I suppose it's fair for one to tell me to quit complaining about being single if I'm the one opting out of dating situations. But it's a matter of fulfillment and compatibility, really.
I'm looking for a someone who's mature, out, and race conscious (pocs and wocs a plus). Those are the non-negotiable things; other things I can work with. It's pretty sad how much that limits my dating field.
love
jaya
p.s. why is that so f*ing hard to find?? :p