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I have this friend. Most of the time, we have a good time with each other. We hang out, and it's cool.
But sometimes, it's not cool. She wants access, for lack of a better word, to all parts of my life, which nobody gets. Like, it's one thing if I just mention in passing things that happen to be on my mind, but she insists on having an opinion on everything and 99% of the time, it's a negative one.
On things that she knows nothing about she's giving me advice or telling me what I did wrong. Like how she insisted on following me into a meeting with a professor to discuss my possibly seeking a graduate degree and then chronicled all the things I did wrong afterward, even though she flunked out when she did the fulltime college thing and took 9 years to get her associate's degree.
She has opinions on my friends and relatives, whom she barely knows. Like she wants to turn my agreement to live with my brother, who has all his life been notably anti-social, into an agreement for the three of us to buy a house together.
And she doesn't want to hear how she butts into other people's business and how sometimes she's downright mean. She says -- and I'm pretty sure truly believes -- that she's justifiably speaking her mind, whether she's asked or not, and that by mentioning something to her, you have irreversibly involved her in it. It's all about how she intended something or what she meant and never about what she actually said and how people take it.
I'm just tired of it. It's one thing to have friends who will be honest with you, but sometimes I'm just not in a place where I want all the negativity. I feel like I should just scratch it and go get some new friends, but so few people can actually stand me for extended periods of time.
But sometimes, it's not cool. She wants access, for lack of a better word, to all parts of my life, which nobody gets. Like, it's one thing if I just mention in passing things that happen to be on my mind, but she insists on having an opinion on everything and 99% of the time, it's a negative one.
On things that she knows nothing about she's giving me advice or telling me what I did wrong. Like how she insisted on following me into a meeting with a professor to discuss my possibly seeking a graduate degree and then chronicled all the things I did wrong afterward, even though she flunked out when she did the fulltime college thing and took 9 years to get her associate's degree.
She has opinions on my friends and relatives, whom she barely knows. Like she wants to turn my agreement to live with my brother, who has all his life been notably anti-social, into an agreement for the three of us to buy a house together.
And she doesn't want to hear how she butts into other people's business and how sometimes she's downright mean. She says -- and I'm pretty sure truly believes -- that she's justifiably speaking her mind, whether she's asked or not, and that by mentioning something to her, you have irreversibly involved her in it. It's all about how she intended something or what she meant and never about what she actually said and how people take it.
I'm just tired of it. It's one thing to have friends who will be honest with you, but sometimes I'm just not in a place where I want all the negativity. I feel like I should just scratch it and go get some new friends, but so few people can actually stand me for extended periods of time.