hahaha. Just say "word" instead. It conveys pretty much the same point. As for religion, ugh.. So do I. I am understanding but the way it makes some people act and how easily it makes amazing people forgotten for what THEY did, grr..
My Eric is not being raised in a house with religion.. It was a huge part of my adoption plan. I asked that his parents don't ever shove religion down his throat and while I was okay with spiritual people and beliefs, I didn't want my son raised in a house where he was expected to go to church two times a week without ever asking to on his own. Catherine and Jim are amazing and also very much not religious.
I also asked that they try to have a lot of music in his life.. said it would mean the world to my dad (Grandpa Roger!) if Bob Dylan could be a part of Eric's soundtrack growing up since both my dad and I are obsessed with him. They followed through with that, too. Damn I'm lucky! :)
I've shared my mom's story a few times on booj when adoption comes up. It's very heavy, but you're welcome to read it anytime. I do mean heavy. I'll link you if you do.
<3. Sending you a lot of love. My mom was a first mom too.
I would love to read it!! When adoption first came into my life I would literally spend hours finding anything I could about it. I found a lot of the birthmom blogs and communities were VERY religion based and while I am not one to judge anyone for their beliefs, I just couldn't let my guard down enough to get immersed into it. All I would read is "Jesus this, God that" and it would make me angry.
Even six years later, I still read/watch anything based on adoption. I would love to see the perspective of a birth mom who hasn't had the same outcome I did. Thank you so much!
How awful.. The losing a son twice line has had me crying off and on for the last two hours. Did she receive pictures of him when he was older, so she knew what he had looked like? The stigma of shame that was placed on these poor girls makes me ill. Like some dirty secret that needs to stay hidden no matter what. My heart hurts for your Mom.
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Agreed that birth mom deserves to (at the very least) acknowledged.
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aand it's still a week later and I am ranting in my head about the whole subject. haha.
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My Eric is not being raised in a house with religion.. It was a huge part of my adoption plan. I asked that his parents don't ever shove religion down his throat and while I was okay with spiritual people and beliefs, I didn't want my son raised in a house where he was expected to go to church two times a week without ever asking to on his own. Catherine and Jim are amazing and also very much not religious.
I also asked that they try to have a lot of music in his life.. said it would mean the world to my dad (Grandpa Roger!) if Bob Dylan could be a part of Eric's soundtrack growing up since both my dad and I are obsessed with him. They followed through with that, too. Damn I'm lucky! :)
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<3. Sending you a lot of love. My mom was a first mom too.
(I am also not religious at all)
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Even six years later, I still read/watch anything based on adoption. I would love to see the perspective of a birth mom who hasn't had the same outcome I did. Thank you so much!
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http://guaparella.livejournal.com/226386.html
Her story is here. She is one of a generation of girls who were "sent away". It's a very sad story.
I also have a my mom tag. She's so great.
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Did she receive pictures of him when he was older, so she knew what he had looked like?
The stigma of shame that was placed on these poor girls makes me ill. Like some dirty secret that needs to stay hidden no matter what. My heart hurts for your Mom.
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