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PostPosted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 5:23 pm Post subject: Reply with quote word of mouth is a powerful tool.
one of the things that upsets me most about society is our fear to get involved! I'm guilty of this too. However it still bothers me.
I hate that people wait until a relationship ends, to tell me how they really felt about my ex. I hate that friends wait until I'm hurt or cheated on to tell me that he has done this to his ex's.
I lost a dear friend because of this. I was raped by HER boyfriend. I told her what happened and she blamed me... and well it was fukin messy. I sought refuge in my other two best friends. (since we were no longer the fearsome foursome) and one of them told me that he had done something similar to her a long time before i was raped, but she never spoke up.
She was so ashamed and felt guilty that she couldnt tell me until he had done it again and worse. He took it to the next level with me, and now she had double the guilt. i, of course, forgave her and she had spoken to our other friend on my behalf... explaining that it wasnt my fault and that her BF had tried to do the same thing to her.
Our ex-friend didnt listen. Whatever, the point is that if we step up and speak out we can protect other women in our community. I'm sure C~K that before you started dating him, people around you KNEW what type of guy he was. These ppl chose to NOT get involved and said nothing. That is where we as society have failed.
if we learn anything from justin, amanda, and c~k.... it is, to not stay silent. To be brave and warn ppl... GOSSIP! SPREAD THE WORD! Seriously.... the more ppl who know the harder it will be for him to find a new victim.
i know that if i was getting cozy with someone who had a history of cheating, abuse, drugs, or worse i'd want to be warned.
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 5:23 pm Post subject: Reply with quote
word of mouth is a powerful tool.
one of the things that upsets me most about society is our fear to get involved! I'm guilty of this too. However it still bothers me.
I hate that people wait until a relationship ends, to tell me how they really felt about my ex. I hate that friends wait until I'm hurt or cheated on to tell me that he has done this to his ex's.
I lost a dear friend because of this. I was raped by HER boyfriend. I told her what happened and she blamed me... and well it was fukin messy. I sought refuge in my other two best friends. (since we were no longer the fearsome foursome) and one of them told me that he had done something similar to her a long time before i was raped, but she never spoke up.
She was so ashamed and felt guilty that she couldnt tell me until he had done it again and worse. He took it to the next level with me, and now she had double the guilt. i, of course, forgave her and she had spoken to our other friend on my behalf... explaining that it wasnt my fault and that her BF had tried to do the same thing to her.
Our ex-friend didnt listen. Whatever, the point is that if we step up and speak out we can protect other women in our community. I'm sure C~K that before you started dating him, people around you KNEW what type of guy he was. These ppl chose to NOT get involved and said nothing. That is where we as society have failed.
if we learn anything from justin, amanda, and c~k.... it is, to not stay silent. To be brave and warn ppl... GOSSIP! SPREAD THE WORD! Seriously.... the more ppl who know the harder it will be for him to find a new victim.
i know that if i was getting cozy with someone who had a history of cheating, abuse, drugs, or worse i'd want to be warned.
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