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I decided I should write more than just the fun quiz... :) Especially since I haven't written for like 2 months.
Tom and I are in couple's counseling. It is going well. (Probably because it was Tom's idea.) Our first session went something like this:
Counselor: So why are you guys here today? (Looking at me - probably assuming I dragged Tom in to counseling as most wives do.)
Tom: We're here because I'm an asshole to Jennie.
Counselor: (Glances at Tom, then turns back to me to talk.) What are you trying to accomplish with these sessions?
Tom: Well, we just don't feel the emotional closeness that we used to, and I would like to get that back.
Counselor: (Looking back and forth between us.) I see...
I think our counselor really thought Tom was my puppet and I was completely controlling him to say those things at first. Fortunately, he seems to have gotten past this concept. :)
He gives us lots of homework assignments. The first one was to start having a weekly date night. So Thursdays are not really a good time for any of you to drop by... (Not that you've been beating down our door or anything. ;) The 2nd task (which I have now nixed) was to have a night for honest communication. Honest communication has never really been a problem for either Tom or I... and we're not about to start holding things inside just so we can hold them over until "honest communication" night. So when our sharing time came - we pretty much had nothing. Cause we'd said it all already. Our counselor was pretty happy to hear about that, actually. Our 3rd assignment was to start talking a short walk before our dates. (Down to the stop sign.) The walks are to help us have time together with no entertainment, etc., distractions, and the stop sign part... well, that's because Tom is still pretty paranoid about leaving the house sometimes. So we're starting small. Our assignment this week still makes me giggle. Tom is not thrilled. We're supposed to start going to church every week. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Snicker) I've been wanting to go to church for a while, but have not wanted to push Tom. Now *I* don't have to push him. The counselor is doing it for me! LOL
Seriously, though - this experience has been really good for both of us because it is helping give Tom tools with how to deal with our marriage. The counselor has really helped him see how being married right now in this time of his life is a positive thing - he wasn't always too sure of that because he keeps thinking that he's holding me back... or some other rot. And since this counselor really understands PTSD, it is also helping ME to understand what is happening inside of Tom, what I can expect, and help me deal with him better. So that is cool.
Well, I'm really tired now. So later.
Tom and I are in couple's counseling. It is going well. (Probably because it was Tom's idea.) Our first session went something like this:
Counselor: So why are you guys here today? (Looking at me - probably assuming I dragged Tom in to counseling as most wives do.)
Tom: We're here because I'm an asshole to Jennie.
Counselor: (Glances at Tom, then turns back to me to talk.) What are you trying to accomplish with these sessions?
Tom: Well, we just don't feel the emotional closeness that we used to, and I would like to get that back.
Counselor: (Looking back and forth between us.) I see...
I think our counselor really thought Tom was my puppet and I was completely controlling him to say those things at first. Fortunately, he seems to have gotten past this concept. :)
He gives us lots of homework assignments. The first one was to start having a weekly date night. So Thursdays are not really a good time for any of you to drop by... (Not that you've been beating down our door or anything. ;) The 2nd task (which I have now nixed) was to have a night for honest communication. Honest communication has never really been a problem for either Tom or I... and we're not about to start holding things inside just so we can hold them over until "honest communication" night. So when our sharing time came - we pretty much had nothing. Cause we'd said it all already. Our counselor was pretty happy to hear about that, actually. Our 3rd assignment was to start talking a short walk before our dates. (Down to the stop sign.) The walks are to help us have time together with no entertainment, etc., distractions, and the stop sign part... well, that's because Tom is still pretty paranoid about leaving the house sometimes. So we're starting small. Our assignment this week still makes me giggle. Tom is not thrilled. We're supposed to start going to church every week. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Snicker) I've been wanting to go to church for a while, but have not wanted to push Tom. Now *I* don't have to push him. The counselor is doing it for me! LOL
Seriously, though - this experience has been really good for both of us because it is helping give Tom tools with how to deal with our marriage. The counselor has really helped him see how being married right now in this time of his life is a positive thing - he wasn't always too sure of that because he keeps thinking that he's holding me back... or some other rot. And since this counselor really understands PTSD, it is also helping ME to understand what is happening inside of Tom, what I can expect, and help me deal with him better. So that is cool.
Well, I'm really tired now. So later.