its the little things.......
sometimes it only takes a visit to someone's house or car to realize that we're not all that different.
i find comfort in being at someone's house, someone's car, someone's something and realizing we are the same.
despite race, economic class, sexuality, religion, age, or personality.... we can all find many similarities. i take comfort in knowing this.
hell, ive had friendships based upon the fact that we have material things in common.
this also makes it easy to make friends. material similarities are great basis for friendship. notice what a friend is wearing, or when his or her breath is bad, what kind of mint he or she reaches for. look for what air fresheners they use in their car, and.... most importantly.... what brand of cigarette they smoke.
go out the next day (preferably the same afternoon) and buy it. theyll notice and start to realize that, yes, you can quailify as a friend because you too enjoy peachy peach and coconut air freshners in your car.
"jesus, i had no idea you used those too." preteneding to act shocked when similarities arise "incidentally." this way, your recent shopping spree at the mall and at target wont be suspicious to anyone.
a friendship may or may not form.
in my case, my act was not convincing enough te first time i tried.
my fault was the first person i staked out, the things i had to buy to show similarities were too large: a car, some burberry, and all the fashion available in the south side of somerset.
needless to say, i tried uncontrolably hard to show similarities and when even the car didnt work, i gave up.
however, on many occasions past that, i was able to show that i was a worthy human. i just didnt know the trade the first time i tried.
does it make me feel stupid that i created a basis for a friendship with a pair of jeans or a newly discovered fondness for starbucks iced tea?
no. it makes the basis for friendships stupid.
i can invent anything that we have in common and we could decide to become friends. i think anyone could be friends with anyone if we all showed material similarities.
but sometimes, that may take a visit to the 'ol homestead.... a place where someone would not go unless there was already a basis for a friendship.
i look around someone's house.... the brand of toilet paper they use, the windshield de-icer they have, the color walls they have, the cds they have, the cologne, the bedsheets, the pictures, the little statue on their desk, their model cars, their bathroom sink fixtures, the brand of ketchup they use.... the little things like that tell me that were not all that different.
"wow, i got that same de-icer for christmas last year," or "i didnt know kohler made those sink fixtures in graphite.... i have them in silver."
bamn. instant bonding.
do it. go into someone's house. look for things that make you say, "i have that," or "wow, i used to have that when i was little." there will be plenty. i guarantee youll find some similarity.
youll realize the differences between you and that person are few and really, you both have a lot in common when you reach for bounty paper towels when your hands are wet.
i personally take comfort in knowing that someone else enjoys the same quality goods i do.
what else matters when you put the same toothbrush into your mouth three times a day? not much.
i find comfort in being at someone's house, someone's car, someone's something and realizing we are the same.
despite race, economic class, sexuality, religion, age, or personality.... we can all find many similarities. i take comfort in knowing this.
hell, ive had friendships based upon the fact that we have material things in common.
this also makes it easy to make friends. material similarities are great basis for friendship. notice what a friend is wearing, or when his or her breath is bad, what kind of mint he or she reaches for. look for what air fresheners they use in their car, and.... most importantly.... what brand of cigarette they smoke.
go out the next day (preferably the same afternoon) and buy it. theyll notice and start to realize that, yes, you can quailify as a friend because you too enjoy peachy peach and coconut air freshners in your car.
"jesus, i had no idea you used those too." preteneding to act shocked when similarities arise "incidentally." this way, your recent shopping spree at the mall and at target wont be suspicious to anyone.
a friendship may or may not form.
in my case, my act was not convincing enough te first time i tried.
my fault was the first person i staked out, the things i had to buy to show similarities were too large: a car, some burberry, and all the fashion available in the south side of somerset.
needless to say, i tried uncontrolably hard to show similarities and when even the car didnt work, i gave up.
however, on many occasions past that, i was able to show that i was a worthy human. i just didnt know the trade the first time i tried.
does it make me feel stupid that i created a basis for a friendship with a pair of jeans or a newly discovered fondness for starbucks iced tea?
no. it makes the basis for friendships stupid.
i can invent anything that we have in common and we could decide to become friends. i think anyone could be friends with anyone if we all showed material similarities.
but sometimes, that may take a visit to the 'ol homestead.... a place where someone would not go unless there was already a basis for a friendship.
i look around someone's house.... the brand of toilet paper they use, the windshield de-icer they have, the color walls they have, the cds they have, the cologne, the bedsheets, the pictures, the little statue on their desk, their model cars, their bathroom sink fixtures, the brand of ketchup they use.... the little things like that tell me that were not all that different.
"wow, i got that same de-icer for christmas last year," or "i didnt know kohler made those sink fixtures in graphite.... i have them in silver."
bamn. instant bonding.
do it. go into someone's house. look for things that make you say, "i have that," or "wow, i used to have that when i was little." there will be plenty. i guarantee youll find some similarity.
youll realize the differences between you and that person are few and really, you both have a lot in common when you reach for bounty paper towels when your hands are wet.
i personally take comfort in knowing that someone else enjoys the same quality goods i do.
what else matters when you put the same toothbrush into your mouth three times a day? not much.