A Hypothetical Question
Imagine you are in a relationship with a guy. He goes unshaven for a few days, which you don't like, because it is rough when you kiss. So you ask him to shave. He does. It's not an unreasonable request.
Now imagine you just gone out on a first date with someone of your preferred gender. It went really well, but they have one superficial feature (like the above mentioned beard) that is easily changed but as it stands you do not like. What do you do? Do you ask them to change it? When is it okay to do that? Do you not go out again because of it, even though once you reached the relationship stage it could be changed easily?
Now imagine you just gone out on a first date with someone of your preferred gender. It went really well, but they have one superficial feature (like the above mentioned beard) that is easily changed but as it stands you do not like. What do you do? Do you ask them to change it? When is it okay to do that? Do you not go out again because of it, even though once you reached the relationship stage it could be changed easily?