hehe... Yeah i am a bit unsure on what road to take when i get home as i am trained in all (but photography)
How long ago, a while and i havent been able to hold my nerves & butterflies around him (yes the only person that gets me all giddy like a school girl!! even after meeting my b/f) I just really want to say sorry for how we split and at age 16 i knew i had to let him go so we could both grow!
I havent seen him in 3 years, but he wouldnt be hard to get back in contact with, i like the letter also, i just dont know how to put it!
The joy of a letter is that you can write it, leave it, come back to it, re-write it, leave it, come back to it..... until you feel it is perfect.
You sound like you have a good start there. Breaking up at 16 might have sucked then, but most 16 year old relationships are not meant to last. 3 years is not that long. Just say Hey...wassup and maybe go from there. "I've been thinking about you lately and...."
Its just i havent been thinking about him 'just lately' i have been thinking about him my whole intire life, since we split up! I carry the necklace that he gave me where ever i go!
Im going to try and write a letter (the basics of it by my birthday) then go from there it is a while before i am home, at least if i have a letter i can give it to him or take notes from it when i speak to him.
most 16yr old relationships dont last... my best mate has been with her man since then and they are 24 this year! It just scares me... thinking of doing all that i have done with the same person.
I know he is living down in the South Island NZ (christchurch), working towards being a Pro Golfer, I dont think he is dating... Unsure at current but hasnt had many girls over the years while i have been talking with him! His life plans, he is an engineer full trained and is trying to become a pro golfer and if that floops he will go back and do engineering.
In short YES i do know alot about what he is up to! He keeps in touch with my dad, then dad tells me! as they are both MAD golfers! & the only guy that my father has meet and likes!
Ok.....and you are waiting for what then? A lightening strike? Divine intervention?
Maybe you should just email/call him in a friendly manner first, find out what's up. After feeling him out, (OUT I said, not UP!) THEN talk to him about your feelings. It might be a bit much if you drop a bombshell letter on him. I'd be worried that he is with someone and that she will get hurt in the process. Not that you don't have every right to express your feelings, but hurting others is not cool.
WAITING...... umm for the butterflies & fuzzyness to slow down long enough so i can not sound like a hyper little school girl around him!
Yeah i have no idea what his e-mail address is but im sure that wouldnt be hard to get from dad.
Hmmmm felling him out/up... hmmm that really doesnt hit a horny cord! I just want him, then work on it from there.
i'm really afraid that he doesnt feel anything towards me, and what i did for us by splitting up so long ago, it might still be a sore spot for him!
If their is a lady, i am sure he would be a man about it. He wouldnt go and do something behind her back and at the same token i wouldnt let him either.
For a troubled 15yr old that i was he knew me SOOO well! I want that person back, I wouldnt be that upset if we were only friends, i just want to knwo if the feelings are mutural.
The thing is i'm sure he would be able to read what i am wanting to say when i start. He has always been good at that!
If he is still harbouring resentment for a breakup eons ago, would you want him?
He's keeping in touch with your dad. That says something to me.... I know that I kept in touch with some of the relatives of my ex's for ulterior motives. Ok, we had like-minded interests as well, but I knew why....
If he feels nothing, which is possible, it's better to KNOW than to spend a lot of time wondering what will happen or could happen. I am a big advocate of being in the know.
I would take him in a heart beat if he still wanted me!
Yeah i think he is keeping in touch with dad to keep an ear out on me, last time i saw him (3yr+) his eyes seemed to light up when i said hi!
Yeah i do want to know, but i dont want to go and upset his golfing, that is something he wants to do and if i get in touch with him he may loose his foucus... The reason in a way that i split us up is that i didnt want to hold him back.
I'm writting a draft letter now on the computer to him. If i send it, it will be hand written!
You'll do the right thing. Honestly, if pro-golf is what he wants, neither man, woman nor beast should be able to interfere. 15 year olds are much different than 24 year olds. His focus should be much better, more concentrated.
Yeah but it may be the reason he is not with anyone as well!! So he doesnt have a distraction! Tiger woods never had a partner for a large part of his career!
I have never told anyone about this and i feel i am being a bit selfish after so many years wanting him back.
He might not want anyone NOW, but he will. Even Tiger got married eventually.....
You're not selfish. You'd be selfish if you were hounding him and completely ignoring what HE wanted. Just because you WANT something, does not mean it will happen either. I want lots of things, but I rarely get them.
Just prepare yourself that you may not get what you want.
I think i have been setting myself up for a huge fall, i hope it is the other way round! But in my mind i have set he may never want to see/hear from me again!
Be a cooking farmer and take pictures of it as you go along! Take pics of you cooking, step by step..before and after pics of the food.
Pics of new baby animals are sweet too.
2. How long ago? More than 10 years? Let it go, man. Less than 10? Still talk to this person? Letter.
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How long ago, a while and i havent been able to hold my nerves & butterflies around him (yes the only person that gets me all giddy like a school girl!! even after meeting my b/f) I just really want to say sorry for how we split and at age 16 i knew i had to let him go so we could both grow!
I havent seen him in 3 years, but he wouldnt be hard to get back in contact with, i like the letter also, i just dont know how to put it!
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You sound like you have a good start there. Breaking up at 16 might have sucked then, but most 16 year old relationships are not meant to last. 3 years is not that long. Just say Hey...wassup and maybe go from there. "I've been thinking about you lately and...."
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Im going to try and write a letter (the basics of it by my birthday) then go from there it is a while before i am home, at least if i have a letter i can give it to him or take notes from it when i speak to him.
most 16yr old relationships dont last... my best mate has been with her man since then and they are 24 this year! It just scares me... thinking of doing all that i have done with the same person.
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Ok...do you know anything about him at the moment? Where he is, dating status, life plans?
If you've been carrying a torch that long, you best deal with it.
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In short YES i do know alot about what he is up to! He keeps in touch with my dad, then dad tells me! as they are both MAD golfers! & the only guy that my father has meet and likes!
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Maybe you should just email/call him in a friendly manner first, find out what's up. After feeling him out, (OUT I said, not UP!) THEN talk to him about your feelings. It might be a bit much if you drop a bombshell letter on him. I'd be worried that he is with someone and that she will get hurt in the process. Not that you don't have every right to express your feelings, but hurting others is not cool.
Being friends first can make things much better.
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Yeah i have no idea what his e-mail address is but im sure that wouldnt be hard to get from dad.
Hmmmm felling him out/up... hmmm that really doesnt hit a horny cord! I just want him, then work on it from there.
i'm really afraid that he doesnt feel anything towards me, and what i did for us by splitting up so long ago, it might still be a sore spot for him!
If their is a lady, i am sure he would be a man about it. He wouldnt go and do something behind her back and at the same token i wouldnt let him either.
For a troubled 15yr old that i was he knew me SOOO well! I want that person back, I wouldnt be that upset if we were only friends, i just want to knwo if the feelings are mutural.
The thing is i'm sure he would be able to read what i am wanting to say when i start. He has always been good at that!
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He's keeping in touch with your dad. That says something to me.... I know that I kept in touch with some of the relatives of my ex's for ulterior motives. Ok, we had like-minded interests as well, but I knew why....
If he feels nothing, which is possible, it's better to KNOW than to spend a lot of time wondering what will happen or could happen. I am a big advocate of being in the know.
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Yeah i think he is keeping in touch with dad to keep an ear out on me, last time i saw him (3yr+) his eyes seemed to light up when i said hi!
Yeah i do want to know, but i dont want to go and upset his golfing, that is something he wants to do and if i get in touch with him he may loose his foucus... The reason in a way that i split us up is that i didnt want to hold him back.
I'm writting a draft letter now on the computer to him. If i send it, it will be hand written!
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I have never told anyone about this and i feel i am being a bit selfish after so many years wanting him back.
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You're not selfish. You'd be selfish if you were hounding him and completely ignoring what HE wanted. Just because you WANT something, does not mean it will happen either. I want lots of things, but I rarely get them.
Just prepare yourself that you may not get what you want.
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I think i have been setting myself up for a huge fall, i hope it is the other way round! But in my mind i have set he may never want to see/hear from me again!
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