The Man who changed my life in 2009
I have been wanting to do this for a while. I had bits and pieces of this note written down, today I finally took the time to put it together, this being 2010. I wanted to talk about some of the individuals who changed my life last year. A lot of people came in to my life last year, but no one influenced it more than Adam Lyons. Here is the story.
The Man who changed my life in 2009
I decided to change one aspect of my life. What I learned was that this changed affected all the facets. The last two years of my life has overshadowed the previous lifetime I built as far as personal success and experiences I lived.
It's great. I came to realize that I had all the tools all along I just needed someone to show me how to use them properly.
One of those people who helped me focus and motivate me more than ever is a man by the name of Adam Lyons. What can I say about Adam Lyons that I haven’t already said?
Let’s rewind to the beginning.
I was what you call a hobbledehoy, or a socially inexperienced young man.
For the last 10 years I've tried and experimented through many interactions and theories, but nothing for me was a consistent solid success.
I was always good talking with an older generation and a younger generation, those people always embraced me as an equal, yet I would never be able to talk to people of my own generation. In fact, one of my goals since I was in high school was to one day have a school for younger men to teach them many basi
It didn’t help that politics was the only thing I really involved in. Oh sure, I was involved in other things, but the equilibrium in my life was not there. I was great at many things, but I didn't know how to bring out the best qualities in me and display those great aspect in a quick 3-5 minute interaction.
The heart break
In January of 2006, after getting my heart broken, I decided I wanted to get serious about mastering the art of the social interaction, mainly with women. I felt miserable, I felt miserable for many months. I went through almost 2 years of DEPRESSION. I had always known social interaction theory and I was a master at applying it during the day time by meeting and conversing with random strangers, but they were always older or younger than me.
I realized that overall; my social interactions with people were not good. I started frequenting local night clubs hoping I could learn to strike conversation with random strangers my own age.
I tested many theories but I was not consistent enough to say I was successful. I was frustrated, sometimes desperate and you interwine those with other things and you get in to a sad state real fast.
My problem was I invested too much in others and I never felt I received it, so this always caused a heart ache in me.
Giving value is one thing, investing in someone is another. This was my biggest problem trying to distinguish from the two. Someone changed that for me down the road.
In 2007, I got a job as a salesman. I was motivated, but during this time, I felt I was starting to lose myself. I felt like my identity was being lost in the process. I felt like I was not genuine.
No, I wanted to be the same person I have always been, I was learning a lot of things about socializing because of my job, but I felt like I was losing my inner core. I felt like a robot.
Then my life took a real turn in 08. I got released from a sales job, which was I real good at, yet I didn’t get released for these reasons. I got a job in actual labor in which I wasn’t getting paid as much as I once was. My life started changing. I realized I sometimes had an EGO and this was holding me back in my interactions.
I knew there were social interaction coaches out there but I was really unsure what style I really wanted to learn. There were so many teachers and so many theories, but I was not sure what would suit me the best. I wanted the fundamentals broken down.
ENTER ADAM LYONS....
In November of 2008, someone told me about Adam Lyons who was from London England. I added him on facebook not knowing what to really expect, I guess I was just another Joe shmoe on his friends list, but when I meet people, I don’t want to meet them and get to know them for their profession, but I want to genuine and get to know them outside as much as possible. He’s from London, I’m in Arizona.
What are my chances of ever meeting this guy?
So I brushed him off as another name on my facebook...
Then I thought about it.. I thought about this for at least 3 weeks. I loved the red hair he had on his picutre and I myself had always want to die my hair red in style of rufio from the movie HOOK.
On December 9, 2008 I sent Adam a message wishing him happy birthday and saying that one day I wanted to sit down, chat and get to know him not just as a teacher but as a friend, or a mate as he would call it.
I was astonished he replied since I must have had over 2000 birthday wishes.
In January of 2009, I learned that a certain company from England was going to be selling only 1000 of an 8 DVD Set on psychology of social interacting and seduction fundamentals. I jumped at the process of purchasing it and my DVDs arrived from England. I watched the 1st DVD set. It put me to sleep. I already knew the lessons that were taught on it, but when I popped in the 2nd DVD, it opened a whole new world to me. Adam Lyons was teaching on this DVD.
I was blown away how he had broken theory down. He talked like a normal person, not like other teachers who used three letter acronyms... I learned about how he used social circle interactions for seduction. I was blown away I tell you... Being somewhat a student of psychology, I understood what he had to say because he was not using complicated words. I understood the dynamics he talked and teached.
I just knew I had to meet the guy, take his bootcamp.
This DVD that I saw on him made me devour everything I could find on Adam Lyons. I swear he was like a PH.D in Attraction and Social Interaction.
It was at this point I was decided I was choosing Adam Lyons as a teacher. I searched online for any audios, videos, anything I could find on the guy. I just felt that I had to meet him. I was going to do whatever it would take to not only meet this guy, but also take one of his classes.
Problem though. He’s in London. I’m in Arizona.
Then I learned his company would be flying him out to different cities in the United States so he could teach his classes in the United States.
In April, I started saving money up to take his class in Los Angeles for May, but realized I would come up short of funds. I could go and take his class and not have a place to stay, or I could have a place to stay and not take his class. Then I learned he would be speaking at a seminar on Sunday Night, May 3rd 2009. I wanted to do everything in my power to be at the seminar he would be at. I wanted to meet him, Even if it was a quick handshake and hello.
So on May 2nd, I drove all the way from Phoenix to Los Angeles just to meet him in L.A. the next day.
I was nervous at the seminar. I not only recognized him, but I recognized his fiance at the time, Amanda Torres. I was even shocked he remembered our facebook conversations. Adam talked a lot about things I already knew in seminar.
To me, it was just a refresher, but what I enjoyed most was when he talked, he doesn’t make things technical or complicated like other teachers. He talks in everyday terms that even a child could understand. I snapped many photos of him, his friends, and him and his fiancée Amanda. I even took a picture with him.
Then something happened.
ENTER LUKE KROGH
I learned Adam Lyons was going to be teaching a 3 day class in Scottsdale Arizona, and for me, it was a weekend that would change my life and take my interactions to another level as I know it now.
I didn’t know what to expect of Luke, really I didn’t.
I had no idea who he was, what he was about, but he had hit me up on facebook.
We chatted and yet I didn’t know he was an instructor for Adam Lyons.
I got to meet Luke and hang out with him for several hours prior to when the 3 day course started, this is I really where Luke started pointing out all the bad habits I had picked up during my time, and I had many. I knew I would have to reprogram myself.
During the breaks of the course, Luke pushed me, and I wanted to quit and Luke kept pushing me to continue.
Luke taught me the difference between giving value and investing in someone. This really opened up my eyes to what I had been doing wrong the entire time.
On the first night of his course, Friday, Adam was assessing my abilities. I froze. This scared me a great deal because since I first started in 2006, I rarely felt this fear or anxiety I was feeling. I had gone up to random strangers to talk to them many of times before, and yet I could not do it this time.
I got to a point in which I was yelling to myself inside, "stop thinking, you know how to lighten up and control crowds..."
I wanted to yell at myself and at one time I fought hard to keep the tears inside. I honestly wanted to hide. I was so mad at myself. Definitely an uneasy feeling because I knew I could do it, and I just wasn’t doing it. Maybe I felt the pressure of being judged, being the shadow of someone who I saw so great at what I wanted to learn.
Then Adam had me go up to a certain girl and told me he was not leaving until I got her number. I really did not want to talk to her at all, but it was now or never. We chatted, I got her number. The next night, that girl called me and invited me over which caused me to be late on the last day of the course. Who would have known.
After Adam’s 3 day course, I came to realize that I had all the tools all along I just needed someone to show me how to use them properly. Adam showed me in what order to use those tools.
In September 13, 2009, I was fortunate enough to have run in to Adam, Luke and Amanda in Las Vegas were he introduced me to other great social art interaction teachers. While in Vegas, I introduced my best friend Jim to Adam and Amanda, which has caused Jim to want to borrow the DVD I had told him about. Let's just say Jim is very impressed.
I always joke to my friends that he has a PhD in Attraction since he has broken down Attraction down to a physics equation, and he does.
(C-R) + Q + SE = Attraction.
I have been able to reverse engineer ALL my interactions with people and see the basis of how each one works.
(Comfort - Rapport) + Qualification + Escalation = Attraction.
My friends all tell me that since that time that I did not do a 180, but I do a total 900 in my life and how I live. They ask how.. I say.. Adam Lyons.. and of coarse, I pitch his $1000 3 day weekend course to them.
I think the most important thing I learned from Adam other than his social game is what he has to say about his theory on texting and frame control. I have been able to gel these two theories together to assist me.
I am doing other things that Adam once did. I am throwing Theme Parties at night clubs in which I ask girls I meet prior to it to dress up and they do. It leaves people wondering, Whose Party is this?, which makes them gravitate to me and enter my world. I currently have 13 steady friends who are girls who will go out with me at the same time on a regular basis and will assist me in my interactions.
There's a lot of responsibility that goes along with what I learned from Adam, the thing is, today, I am more focused and motivated than I’ve ever been. Adam Lyons, his wife Amanda, and Luke really redefined, in my own mind, what I was capable of
My confidence, my beliefs in myself are STARTING to solidifying like concrete, not just in social interaction but other aspects of my life as well.
I have a long journey ahead in my life but I thank Adam for helping me once again to kick myself to find my path along that Journey.