Mom & Dad
Oops, missed a day. So the parents songs.
First, my dad. My dad is the strong, silent type. He's known to scare boyfriends with a mere glance. However, my husband and him really get along. My parents divorced when I was 14. Their relationship was rough, mostly due to drinking. I know there are things that happened in the past that should make me hate my dad. But, for whatever reason, I can't. Maybe it's because, when the divorce happened, my father broke down crying and asked me to forgive him. It was so hard to process, someone so strong, admitting defeat and asking a 14 year old not to hate him. To his credit, he stepped up his game when we were with him. He may have not communicated as much as I would have liked, but when we were with him, he made it count. When we started the wedding planning, I wanted to pick the perfect song. It's amazing how many cheesy songs that feel completely inappropriate for a father/daughter dance. I fell back on classic rock because it's something we share a mutual love for. If there is one thing we have in common, it's good music. Low and behold, I found a great Bruce Springsteen song. I thought the meaning went both way. That he was there for me as a dad and I would be there for him as a daughter.
Sadly, there is no youtube video for it, except for some terrible cover by a random lady. But, it's titled, When you need me.
Next up, my mom.
For a long time, I was really mad at my mom. She had good reasons for leaving my dad and I felt like she was a strong person. But then, she jumped right into a relationship with an abusive asshole. She wasted 10 year of her (and our) lives with this man. He hated me because I saw him for what he was and told him straight out. they say hindsight is 20 20. this is very true in this case. I wish I would have called the cops sooner. I wish that I would have told my family sooner. I really resented her for not loving us enough to leave him. I understand now that abusive relationships can be all consuming and the head games can be a prison. But, he's out of our lives now and I couldn't be more grateful.
Still, I hate to admit it, there is a sting that lingers. I love my mom dearly and am thankful for everything she did do for us. I'm glad we are rebuilding. But, I can't help but think of here every time I hear this song.
3 libras- A perfect circle
First, my dad. My dad is the strong, silent type. He's known to scare boyfriends with a mere glance. However, my husband and him really get along. My parents divorced when I was 14. Their relationship was rough, mostly due to drinking. I know there are things that happened in the past that should make me hate my dad. But, for whatever reason, I can't. Maybe it's because, when the divorce happened, my father broke down crying and asked me to forgive him. It was so hard to process, someone so strong, admitting defeat and asking a 14 year old not to hate him. To his credit, he stepped up his game when we were with him. He may have not communicated as much as I would have liked, but when we were with him, he made it count. When we started the wedding planning, I wanted to pick the perfect song. It's amazing how many cheesy songs that feel completely inappropriate for a father/daughter dance. I fell back on classic rock because it's something we share a mutual love for. If there is one thing we have in common, it's good music. Low and behold, I found a great Bruce Springsteen song. I thought the meaning went both way. That he was there for me as a dad and I would be there for him as a daughter.
Sadly, there is no youtube video for it, except for some terrible cover by a random lady. But, it's titled, When you need me.
Next up, my mom.
For a long time, I was really mad at my mom. She had good reasons for leaving my dad and I felt like she was a strong person. But then, she jumped right into a relationship with an abusive asshole. She wasted 10 year of her (and our) lives with this man. He hated me because I saw him for what he was and told him straight out. they say hindsight is 20 20. this is very true in this case. I wish I would have called the cops sooner. I wish that I would have told my family sooner. I really resented her for not loving us enough to leave him. I understand now that abusive relationships can be all consuming and the head games can be a prison. But, he's out of our lives now and I couldn't be more grateful.
Still, I hate to admit it, there is a sting that lingers. I love my mom dearly and am thankful for everything she did do for us. I'm glad we are rebuilding. But, I can't help but think of here every time I hear this song.
3 libras- A perfect circle
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