Marriage and some other stuff
Tonight I was asking Rodrigo what he thought of marriage... IN GENERAL, we are not getting married.
But we were just discussing the idea of being with someone for a such a long time. If we decided to get married we would be together for like 50+ years, at least by societies expectations we would, is that really fair? I mean can't someone just get bored, and sick of telling the same person to put their dishes in the dishwasher, do not leave them in the sink? I don't think its fair, I like the idea of being with someone for a long time but only if I love that person. I look at my mom's life and I see what I don't want, to be remarried to an asshole and then I look at my dad's life, lonely and always looking to meet someone to spend the rest of his life with. Either way it doesn't look good.
I mean I want to have kids, but why do we necessarily have to get married to have them? Its all societies standards. Of course what girl doesn't want to get dressed up and look beautiful on her wedding day and have all of her family and friends there to see. But after you walk down that aisle how is life any different at home if you have already lived with that person? Its the same story.
When I meet people whose parents have stayed married I think wow, thats really impressive, but then I also think just because they have stayed together doesn't always make them happy. I want to be happy in life and I'm not sure if putting the pressure/expectation on myself of staying with someone for the rest of my life is going to work.
This all stems from the reading I am doing for my sex and gender class, reading about marriage and divorce in our society and others. One biologist was saying that divorce rates at 50% only come from the fact that we are living so much longer. In the past if you were dying around 45 years old being married to someone for 20+ ish years is acceptable, but now its like 50-60 years, thats a long time. My grandparents have been married something like 55 years. I just dont know about that. THen again I dont want to be alone when I get old either. I think its better to just keep really good girlfriends, seeing as how all the old men dye first anyways.
Anyways the other stuff is that I had an amazing day. I got up and went to a yoga class, then proceeded to the farmers market where i had amazing food including a gyro, and honey apricot ice cream from Mallards Ice cream. PROBABLY THE BEST MEAL EVER. I also brought home a bouquet of lilacs which smell amazing! I then took a nap and studied for like 5 hours, which wasnt the amazing part, but all in all a good day.
But we were just discussing the idea of being with someone for a such a long time. If we decided to get married we would be together for like 50+ years, at least by societies expectations we would, is that really fair? I mean can't someone just get bored, and sick of telling the same person to put their dishes in the dishwasher, do not leave them in the sink? I don't think its fair, I like the idea of being with someone for a long time but only if I love that person. I look at my mom's life and I see what I don't want, to be remarried to an asshole and then I look at my dad's life, lonely and always looking to meet someone to spend the rest of his life with. Either way it doesn't look good.
I mean I want to have kids, but why do we necessarily have to get married to have them? Its all societies standards. Of course what girl doesn't want to get dressed up and look beautiful on her wedding day and have all of her family and friends there to see. But after you walk down that aisle how is life any different at home if you have already lived with that person? Its the same story.
When I meet people whose parents have stayed married I think wow, thats really impressive, but then I also think just because they have stayed together doesn't always make them happy. I want to be happy in life and I'm not sure if putting the pressure/expectation on myself of staying with someone for the rest of my life is going to work.
This all stems from the reading I am doing for my sex and gender class, reading about marriage and divorce in our society and others. One biologist was saying that divorce rates at 50% only come from the fact that we are living so much longer. In the past if you were dying around 45 years old being married to someone for 20+ ish years is acceptable, but now its like 50-60 years, thats a long time. My grandparents have been married something like 55 years. I just dont know about that. THen again I dont want to be alone when I get old either. I think its better to just keep really good girlfriends, seeing as how all the old men dye first anyways.
Anyways the other stuff is that I had an amazing day. I got up and went to a yoga class, then proceeded to the farmers market where i had amazing food including a gyro, and honey apricot ice cream from Mallards Ice cream. PROBABLY THE BEST MEAL EVER. I also brought home a bouquet of lilacs which smell amazing! I then took a nap and studied for like 5 hours, which wasnt the amazing part, but all in all a good day.