Like a jack in the box - you know it's coming, just not when.
Tom and I seriously considered trashing our current wedding plans today, and throwing a 'surprise wedding'. Which is to say, I invite you to my house for a BBQ, and instead of beer and hot dogs, you get beer, good food and a wedding.
Because you know what? I think it would be fun. And that is what we want this day to be. Fun! It would still be a wedding - Tom and I committing ourselves to each other, with vows and rings and flowers - but all of the expectations people have about it all would be moot.
We are thinking that people will be in town for the 'real' wedding on Sunday, so the rehearsal dinner/graduation BBQ on Saturday would be the time to do it, and then we could just give people the day off on Sunday. ha! We'll see. I am just so over the idea of a big formal day, and ready to have fun, and to make the day about US, not the flowers and favors and crap.
Downside: a nonrefundable deposit we already put down on our space. :/
ETA:
Some surprise weddings ala google:
One, Two, Three, Four, Five, six,
This one is maybe my favorite, so think this, with this vibe. (that whole set is enviable).
Because you know what? I think it would be fun. And that is what we want this day to be. Fun! It would still be a wedding - Tom and I committing ourselves to each other, with vows and rings and flowers - but all of the expectations people have about it all would be moot.
We are thinking that people will be in town for the 'real' wedding on Sunday, so the rehearsal dinner/graduation BBQ on Saturday would be the time to do it, and then we could just give people the day off on Sunday. ha! We'll see. I am just so over the idea of a big formal day, and ready to have fun, and to make the day about US, not the flowers and favors and crap.
Downside: a nonrefundable deposit we already put down on our space. :/
ETA:
Some surprise weddings ala google:
One, Two, Three, Four, Five, six,
This one is maybe my favorite, so think this, with this vibe. (that whole set is enviable).