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This is the last of the public posts to my journal. If you cannot read my next post, that means that I have removed you from my friends list. If you think I did so by accident (which I admit is entirely possible) or you want me to reconsider (which I might), either respond to this one, or drop me an e-mail at this handle at sbcglobal.net
I see Josh a few times a week. We exercise together at the base gym, that accounts for 3 of 'em. The other time is the Sunday game.
I see Brian O'koon once a week. On the Sunday game.
Are we a clique? I didn't think so. I could be wrong. It was never my intention to exclude anyone. Josh and Brian are my friends, as are you guys. Josh and Brian have been gaming longer with me on a regular basis, so we know a little more about how our characters typically act. You might have read too much into things.
It seems that our communication on the whole "Groomsman-best-man" thing was garbled. Here's what I was trying to say at the time.
1. I want you to be a groomsman, Phil.
2. I'd ask Doug too, but we have limited slots available. So while I wish I could, I can't do that. I'm sorry.
3. I haven't decided on a best man, yet. As we're all gamers, I'm toying with the idea of diceing for it, as I think it would be funny. (I have since reconsidered this idea. I'll ask Josh.)
I think you misheard a lot of it.
I dropped out of the Saturday group because 4 games in four days WAS too much. The secondary reasons were to spend more time with my fiancee, and to get the hell away from Ken, though I did not mention that at the time.
I am not running a regular game on Saturdays. I am running a MONTHLY game of Shadowrun on Saturdays. I started this last month, I'll continue running it every month as long as the Missions last. (Missions is an RPGA-like campaign. Minimal prepwork on my end of things. It is barely any work or involvement at all.)
As far as other games go... I am playing with Tazzy's old group in Columbus, on Thursdays. I am running L5R for them now, though that might change in a few months, as I hand off to another GM and go back to playing.
I just finished up my turn at running the Sunday game, (Which you and Doug both left for good of your own choice) and am going to be playing for a while in the next GM's campaign. We've added Tazzy and another player, Caroline, from the old guild. She has not yet complained about cliques, or exclusion.
::Sighs::
I have been distant. I have always been that way, I hate picking up the phone, and emails are too much like work at the end of a 9-5 workday.
I have been adjusting to life with Tazzy. This is the first time since I've left my parents' house that I've lived with anyone. This is a big deal, and I've been devoting my time and energy to building a functional and sound relationship with the one I love. My other relationships have probably suffered as a result of that, I haven't talked to quite a few people in a while.
I'm a damn introvert, of COURSE I'm distant! The exception is gaming, where I can kick out with my friends. If it weren't for that, it'd be too easy to withdraw entirely... Hide in my shell.
But...
You know...
My phone number's been listed here for a while. You guys have called ONCE, to clarify with directions to your place, for Doug's birthday.
Once. A man told me once that the behavior that irks you most is the behavior that you do yourself. Check that mirror, compadre.
There.
I've said my peace.
Maybe it's best that you remove me from friends list. In fact, don't put me back on there. Right now I'm angry at you. That might change in the future, but I need time to fucking cool off.
I take it you're declining the groomsman option as well. Good, that saves me the trouble of rescinding it. We'll drop down to four and four.
Good bye, and good luck. Believe it or not, I wish you well and regret that this has come to pass. Perhaps one day when we've cooled down, we can laugh about this. This is not that day.
-Andrew
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When Josh had first gotten his job and O'Koone there was some OOC cliquing going on. Not much, but it was there. It sounds like it has died out. In character was another story, where you were actively trying to include Doug's character.
As far as the Groomsman-Bestman thing. I think you may have misspoke that day, and what was misspoken was misheard as well. Yes, I will be declining the position, regetably.
Your secondary reasons for leaving the Saturday group are, in my opinion, the more solid reasons. I don't blame you for running away from Ken. The only reason we associate with him as much as we do (which has dropped of dramatically, he no longer games with us) is because we are his ONLY outlet of any kind and Doug is his brother. And quality time with the SO trumps game anytime.
I can understand the not wanting to contact anyone after work. I am just as much an introvert as you. If not for Doug dragging me out kicking and screaming, I could easily disappear in my rut.
You're right. When both sides cool and digest the data provided by the other side, we may laugh and this will fade to the disappearance point. I regret any parting because "space is wide and good friends are too few," especially for me. Perhaps we will meet again in better times. Until then, I wish you and Tazzy the best.
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