Yes there are plenty of people who put no feeling into the act of sex, perhaps even a majority. But I must disagree with your assertion that love and sex have no correlation. I believe they can, and they should.
You basically have two sets of people with regards to sex. You have the people that “fuck” and the people that “make love.” Watch a porno and you will get an example of pure fucking. It is all about the pleasure and most definitely love does not enter the brain. However there is also “making love.” Watch a movie drama with sex in it and you will notice that is starkly different then a porno. You have caressing, its very slow, no one is screaming saying “FUCK ME FUCK ME!”, just moaning. Emotion. Love.
There are girls that some guys just want to screw, and then there are girls that you want to “take home to your mom.” A friend. A best friend. You know this person deeply and you connect with them and slowly you become something more. You progress to doing other things. You don’t say “bend over” you slowly kiss the person and it goes further. All the while you have butterflies in your stomach and your so scared. It is showing your love. It is “making love” and the word “Sex” doesn’t come to play. You don’t want to fuck your wife, you want to make love to her. Just the difference in wording proves that love and sex do go together.
Granted there are assholes who take advantage of situations. There are people who say things, people who lie to get someone in bed. Scum. But it doesn’t matter how large that group of people grow to, there will always be a few romantics who want to find love. And when you find love, and the relationship gets to a certain point you want to make love to them. And when you do it, your relationship will climb to a new level. In that sense sex is most definitely ESSENTIAL to a true love relationship. It is not you willing to give up your body to someone, sex IS love in this situation. It wont ever be the same after you have made love to the person you love. Its not just “oh, we did this, we are exactly the same but we just added this other thing that doesn’t mean anything”… no… It is “We have done something so special, shared ourselves, from this point on every time I look at you I’m not going to be able to withhold a smile.”
Sex has two sub-categories in my opinion. Fucking, and making love. The question should be what do you think about when you hear the word “fucking”? And then what do you think about when you hear the words “making love”.
When I hear the words making love I think of love, I think of loving someone so damn much and wanting to be as close to them as humanly possibly. Sharing ourselves. There is most definitely emotion in that. PURE emotion, the best kind ever. You cuddle, you hug, you kiss, you smile, you look into the eyes of the person you love. When you have that, the pleasure of it all is just a bonus.
You basically have two sets of people with regards to sex. You have the people that “fuck” and the people that “make love.” Watch a porno and you will get an example of pure fucking. It is all about the pleasure and most definitely love does not enter the brain. However there is also “making love.” Watch a movie drama with sex in it and you will notice that is starkly different then a porno. You have caressing, its very slow, no one is screaming saying “FUCK ME FUCK ME!”, just moaning. Emotion. Love.
There are girls that some guys just want to screw, and then there are girls that you want to “take home to your mom.” A friend. A best friend. You know this person deeply and you connect with them and slowly you become something more. You progress to doing other things. You don’t say “bend over” you slowly kiss the person and it goes further. All the while you have butterflies in your stomach and your so scared. It is showing your love. It is “making love” and the word “Sex” doesn’t come to play. You don’t want to fuck your wife, you want to make love to her. Just the difference in wording proves that love and sex do go together.
Granted there are assholes who take advantage of situations. There are people who say things, people who lie to get someone in bed. Scum. But it doesn’t matter how large that group of people grow to, there will always be a few romantics who want to find love. And when you find love, and the relationship gets to a certain point you want to make love to them. And when you do it, your relationship will climb to a new level. In that sense sex is most definitely ESSENTIAL to a true love relationship. It is not you willing to give up your body to someone, sex IS love in this situation. It wont ever be the same after you have made love to the person you love. Its not just “oh, we did this, we are exactly the same but we just added this other thing that doesn’t mean anything”… no… It is “We have done something so special, shared ourselves, from this point on every time I look at you I’m not going to be able to withhold a smile.”
Sex has two sub-categories in my opinion. Fucking, and making love. The question should be what do you think about when you hear the word “fucking”? And then what do you think about when you hear the words “making love”.
When I hear the words making love I think of love, I think of loving someone so damn much and wanting to be as close to them as humanly possibly. Sharing ourselves. There is most definitely emotion in that. PURE emotion, the best kind ever. You cuddle, you hug, you kiss, you smile, you look into the eyes of the person you love. When you have that, the pleasure of it all is just a bonus.
Just my humble opinion on the subject.
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