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So I emailed my husband, then texted Lori. Basically got told that they all want to stay out of it...it's between me and Jan and yes they believe that she misunderstood me...."You should try to call her, but hey, you know how mom is"
Now, I really got no problem with them wanting to stay out of it...except that their band practices at Jan's house..and I am a part of that band..and my husband is a part of that band. You would think that they would want to do whatever they could to help put this to rest.
Anyway, I texted Jan, told her I wanted to talk but couldn't call from work. She said call later, she won't talk through text mail(which is fine, I didn't want too anyway).
HOnestly, I'm dreading the phone call. Due to what she said to Dana, "if your not having fun then why are you here?"...I believe she "half heard" some other conversations that we had going on between us...all that she could have easily taken the wrong way if she didn't hear everything that was said. I just feel like i'm going to end up defending myself for an hour and she will still probably not believe me....just a feeling I've got, maybe I'm wrong.
Even if we "make up", I'm using this as my exit from 'the band'. I don't know what to say exactly other than too many emotions running high right now so it's time for me to back off for awhile? So there will be 2-3 nights a week that I will miss out on spending 4-6 hours with my husband. I guess I'll get over it. I'm trying to smooth this over for him. If Jan doesn't make up with me and I am not welcome, well that kind of puts him in an uncomfortable position and he wasn't at the bar and had nothing to do with it. And it is her house they practice at, but she allows it and really Lori didn't have anything to do with this and can't make up her mothers mind for her...I guess its just a wait and see situation.
Even though I was getting tired of that particular karaoke bar, it would have been nice to quit on my own. It's gonna suck if I don't feel welcome there anymore.
Now, I really got no problem with them wanting to stay out of it...except that their band practices at Jan's house..and I am a part of that band..and my husband is a part of that band. You would think that they would want to do whatever they could to help put this to rest.
Anyway, I texted Jan, told her I wanted to talk but couldn't call from work. She said call later, she won't talk through text mail(which is fine, I didn't want too anyway).
HOnestly, I'm dreading the phone call. Due to what she said to Dana, "if your not having fun then why are you here?"...I believe she "half heard" some other conversations that we had going on between us...all that she could have easily taken the wrong way if she didn't hear everything that was said. I just feel like i'm going to end up defending myself for an hour and she will still probably not believe me....just a feeling I've got, maybe I'm wrong.
Even if we "make up", I'm using this as my exit from 'the band'. I don't know what to say exactly other than too many emotions running high right now so it's time for me to back off for awhile? So there will be 2-3 nights a week that I will miss out on spending 4-6 hours with my husband. I guess I'll get over it. I'm trying to smooth this over for him. If Jan doesn't make up with me and I am not welcome, well that kind of puts him in an uncomfortable position and he wasn't at the bar and had nothing to do with it. And it is her house they practice at, but she allows it and really Lori didn't have anything to do with this and can't make up her mothers mind for her...I guess its just a wait and see situation.
Even though I was getting tired of that particular karaoke bar, it would have been nice to quit on my own. It's gonna suck if I don't feel welcome there anymore.