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Dear Kelly
My boyfriend Tom and I have a sex issue. I'm going to write about my side, then he'll write about his.
Our problem is this: He's into the idea of me shaving my pubic hair off, and I have reservations about it.
Gwen's side: This is something that some friends of mine have done and are pretty blase, but I just feel weird about it. I'm not saying that I think Tom is a child molester or anything, but I just want to really understand what turns him on about my body looking more like a toddler's. I mean, it's not like I'm the bushiest beaver ever or anything and I keep my bikini line pretty much in line, but I'm fairly thick hair-wise. It's never occurred to me to shave it off. I really want to make him happy and I've been willing to experiment in the past but I'm afraid I'll take one look at myself in the mirror and be horrified. I just don't want to feel ashamed.
Tom's side: Ok, so first things first I am NOT a child molester. That's stupid. The practice is too wide-spread for every man whose girlfriend does it to be a pedophile. That is gross and awful and I wouldn't be with Gwen if she was 9 years old. She's a healthy, fine, curvy 25 year old and I like her that way. My preference for shaving I see as being more practical: I like the way it feels. Who doesn't like to touch smooth skin? I also think it makes oral sex a lot more pleasant (no picking hair out of your teeth, things like that) and I keep my own pubes pretty short so that she doesn't have that problem either when she goes down on me. Hell, I'd shave mine off if she tried it herself. Most women already pluck their eyebrows, and shave their legs and armpits (a debate over the rightness or wrongness of our standards of beauty is a whole other issue)--so why am I weird for wanting to see a little more hair removed? Like I said, I'd do it myself, so I don't think it's unreasonable to try it.
What do you think, Kelly? We've both decided that we're going to try and follow the advice you give us.
Gwen and Tom
G&T,
Firstly, thank you for asking me something sexylike. I've been waiting for it.
Gwen.
Firstly, please don't assume that Tom's interest in your having bald lady bits has anything to do with wanting you to be anything different than what you are. It's a purely aesthetic and sexual thing, and nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. I say go for it! Worst case scenario, you decide you don't like the look or feel of it and you let it grow back. No harm, no foul.
But let me recommend something here. Don't shave. If you've never gone totally smooth before, shaving your nethers can be a tricky proposition and will likely result in a nick or two that will do nothing but sting for a few days. It's no fun, and it's completely counterproductive to what we're trying to accomplish here. Talk to your girlfriends and ask them if they've ever had a bikini wax, and if they can recommend anyone in the area. It's going to run you around $50-$60 for the whole thing, but your end result will be a professionally waxed, kissably smooth downstairs.
You'll love it. It's an incredibly sexy feeling (though a little drafty!) and it'll last for a few weeks. Another plus is that after waxing, your hair will grow back a little finer, which is always nice.
Your best special-occasion silky underthings will feel new and awesome. Masturbation will become a new favorite pastime. Walking down the street will give you a shit-eating grin. Do it. You'll thank me.
Tom.
Once Gwen has found a nice, clean, respectable salon, buy her a gift certificate or something and treat her to an afternoon of pampering. When she gets home make her a nice dinner, have some wine, and go to town on her. Be very gentle at first, because it is a new feeling and she's likely to be very sensitive. If you play your cards right this could become a trend!
-K
My boyfriend Tom and I have a sex issue. I'm going to write about my side, then he'll write about his.
Our problem is this: He's into the idea of me shaving my pubic hair off, and I have reservations about it.
Gwen's side: This is something that some friends of mine have done and are pretty blase, but I just feel weird about it. I'm not saying that I think Tom is a child molester or anything, but I just want to really understand what turns him on about my body looking more like a toddler's. I mean, it's not like I'm the bushiest beaver ever or anything and I keep my bikini line pretty much in line, but I'm fairly thick hair-wise. It's never occurred to me to shave it off. I really want to make him happy and I've been willing to experiment in the past but I'm afraid I'll take one look at myself in the mirror and be horrified. I just don't want to feel ashamed.
Tom's side: Ok, so first things first I am NOT a child molester. That's stupid. The practice is too wide-spread for every man whose girlfriend does it to be a pedophile. That is gross and awful and I wouldn't be with Gwen if she was 9 years old. She's a healthy, fine, curvy 25 year old and I like her that way. My preference for shaving I see as being more practical: I like the way it feels. Who doesn't like to touch smooth skin? I also think it makes oral sex a lot more pleasant (no picking hair out of your teeth, things like that) and I keep my own pubes pretty short so that she doesn't have that problem either when she goes down on me. Hell, I'd shave mine off if she tried it herself. Most women already pluck their eyebrows, and shave their legs and armpits (a debate over the rightness or wrongness of our standards of beauty is a whole other issue)--so why am I weird for wanting to see a little more hair removed? Like I said, I'd do it myself, so I don't think it's unreasonable to try it.
What do you think, Kelly? We've both decided that we're going to try and follow the advice you give us.
Gwen and Tom
G&T,
Firstly, thank you for asking me something sexylike. I've been waiting for it.
Gwen.
Firstly, please don't assume that Tom's interest in your having bald lady bits has anything to do with wanting you to be anything different than what you are. It's a purely aesthetic and sexual thing, and nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. I say go for it! Worst case scenario, you decide you don't like the look or feel of it and you let it grow back. No harm, no foul.
But let me recommend something here. Don't shave. If you've never gone totally smooth before, shaving your nethers can be a tricky proposition and will likely result in a nick or two that will do nothing but sting for a few days. It's no fun, and it's completely counterproductive to what we're trying to accomplish here. Talk to your girlfriends and ask them if they've ever had a bikini wax, and if they can recommend anyone in the area. It's going to run you around $50-$60 for the whole thing, but your end result will be a professionally waxed, kissably smooth downstairs.
You'll love it. It's an incredibly sexy feeling (though a little drafty!) and it'll last for a few weeks. Another plus is that after waxing, your hair will grow back a little finer, which is always nice.
Your best special-occasion silky underthings will feel new and awesome. Masturbation will become a new favorite pastime. Walking down the street will give you a shit-eating grin. Do it. You'll thank me.
Tom.
Once Gwen has found a nice, clean, respectable salon, buy her a gift certificate or something and treat her to an afternoon of pampering. When she gets home make her a nice dinner, have some wine, and go to town on her. Be very gentle at first, because it is a new feeling and she's likely to be very sensitive. If you play your cards right this could become a trend!
-K