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so this one time i sucked it up and told this dude something so that he would hear it from me rather than hearing it from other people. i figured it to be a courtesy, because we had dated for a lengthy amount of time, and because neither of us had been with anyone seriously since, because we'd been in love, bla bla bla. so when i got a boyfriend, i called the ex and told him about it, not to gloat, never to fucking gloat, simply to send up a warning flare, if you will. because discovering that the person who carries a piece of your history, and piece of your heart, all of your virginity and all that other mucky stuff that comes with having been together for three years (and several more years of trying again), discovering that they are finally seeing someone else is hard, no matter that it's been three years, no matter all the other stuff that's happened. hearing it from them is hard, but it is best, because with it comes a trust intact. "hey, we're not together anymore, but i still care about how you feel, i am sensitive to our past and the weight it bears on our separate futures."
...hearing it from others, reading about it online, seeing the other girl and realizing that the reason she won't look you in the eye is because she's dating your ex-boyfriend, is intolerable. why so secretive? is there really an excuse?
...hearing it from others, reading about it online, seeing the other girl and realizing that the reason she won't look you in the eye is because she's dating your ex-boyfriend, is intolerable. why so secretive? is there really an excuse?