Good stuff, tough stuff

[isle_of_woman]

I don't post here nearly enough. I guess it's more comfortable being a lurker. I also don't want to say too much on FB, because so many co-workers and family are there. And when I have a lot to say, I tend to clam up, paradoxically.

Comments

*hugs*

[moonlitcirce]

I'm so sorry about your having a rough year and losing your grandparents, and feeling like you've lost your dad with his new relationship.
I applaud you for opening up on here. I know it must be difficult.
I also feel like no one will visit me unless I host a party. You visited me, though. You drove me to the movie theater and that was so much fun.
If I could be in your neck of the woods, I would, but know you've been in my thoughts for a long time and I haven't forgotten you at all.

Yay for Hunter, your exercise program, and your photography.
:)

Re: *hugs*

[isle_of_woman]

Thanks so much, Tami. I shouldn't complain, it's nothing compared to what you go through daily. I guess I just saved it up for a long time and wanted to speak about it all finally. I think of you often, too. Sorry I am bad about getting out there. Let's plan to go to another movie again soon. Is there anything you'd like to see?

[okoshun]

It sounds like it's been (and will be) a very tough year. It would be nice to see you - hope you do make it up!

I know that I've been seeing my old friends a lot less lately unless we make plans to get together for a birthday or the like. With everyone all spread out now it's just not as easy as it once once. You actually have to *plan* in order to get together and I'm a bad planner when it comes to that myself. I know it's not helped Sue to feel less alone - we see eachother only every few weeks..if that. :/

[professor_booty]

You're going to be in Vegas the weekend of Jul 23-24, correct? That's the weekend that I'm having my birthday party...

[okoshun]

*grumble* Dallas, actually. Vegas will be in August most likely.

[isle_of_woman]

Thanks, Oksana. I hope we can meet up again sometime, even tough it sounds like you will be busy traveling! And yes, being a "grownup" certainly cuts into friend time. Seems like it gets hard to see those you care about. Give Sue a hug from me.

[clanhanna]

I am so out of the loop! (Not that that isn't the normal state of things for me...)

At least once a day, remind yourself that you have friends, that they love you, and that that love isn't directly tied to how you currently feel about yourself. I've found that it helps.

Any other questions I'll reserve for when I see you in person next.

[isle_of_woman]

Thanks so much, Kurt! I will try and do that. I know I have some amazing people (see comments), but sometimes the isolated feeling (mostly due to my crummy work schedule) amplifies it. *hugs*

[epi_lj]

That sounds like a lot of really challenging stuff to go through. :(

I've been terrible about getting together with friends, too. I've tried to do a bit more of it lately, but even that has been mostly in the form of board games, which is great for the core people who love to play board games, but the rest of the gang is less likely to come out for that. So I talk to people online all the time, but I actually see my non-partner friends in person extremely seldom, and I've been *horrible* at doing the sort of basic follow-up to turn casual acquaintences and people I know mostly online but who are local into actual in-person friends.

I do hope that I'll get a chance to see you when you're up if you can make it!

I wish I had some advice about everything else. I can imagine that that would combine to make you feel really isolated. :/

[isle_of_woman]

Thank you, If! I feel like I get to know you through your posts and it would be wonderful to game together again. Have you played 7 Wonders yet? It's new and lots of fun. I should try and procure it and bring it with me ... Hmmm. *hugs*

[professor_booty]

I'm thinking of making my birthday gathering into a game day...so yes, bring it along. :)

[fuzzygondol]

*hugs* I had no idea you were going through all this stuff :-( I'm so sorry hun. We live so close, we really should hang out soon. I'll be pretty busy until the end of the school year- and actually really until I get back from my trip to Italy- I have a few free days around June 24th-27th (I leave for Italy on the 28th) Otherwise I'll be back on July 11th, and we should definitely hang out sometime after that. In fact, we should plan something, so that it'll actually happen. Let me know what days are good for you. *hugs* Take care and be well.

[isle_of_woman]

I hope we can, too, Cynthia! You give great hugs! Italy should be lovely - take lots of photos. And yes, I'd love to hang out when you get back. Thanks for the comment! :)

[6sixofswords6]

What Cynthia said....