I know I haven't updated in a while, I'll get to that soon :) In the meantime, I just couldn't sit still regarding one of the biggest crocks of shite I've seen on TV these past few years. ( Rantity Rant )
Couldn't have said it better myself. I threw up a little emotionally watching that ad.
I don't care if someone things I'm disgusting for wanting to kiss a girl, or eventually marry one if I found the right one. That's their prerogative. But it's also my prerogative to be able to love someone equally, regardless of which gender my life partner would be (being bi.) Somehow I'm entitled to marriage if I happen to fall in love with a man, and I'm not longer entitled to that right if I happen to fall in love with a woman? My essential love for another human being would be the same in either case, and the reason for marriage in either case. Nothing that society OUGHT to care about is compromised at all. Love is love is love...
And if they're so worried about their kids being "taught" stuff in school, maybe they need to realize that their kids aren't extensions of themselves like another limb or organ. If it isn't gay marriage in schools, it'll be drugs when they're tweens/teens or sex or staying out late or any number of things that will give their parents hell eventually. Don't deny others rights because you're afraid your kids might possibly develop a different view from you. Might as well leave them in a fucking box their whole lives if that's a concern. They aren't parents' property.
Ugh. I'm trying to keep an open mind about people who truly feel this way, and I understand why they feel and do what they do. They can do it, but I don't have to agree with it.
Well, that's the thing... if we don't agree with how they think, the status quo continues. If they don't agree with how we think, they run out and try to pass laws to stop us.
And you're talking about people who really do believe their kids are their property, who think theirs would *never* do drugs, or have sex before marriage, or get pregnant, or even love someone of the same sex. That's why they're so scared of gay people being able to legally marry: just one more thing they don't have control of in their kids' lives.
It's a lot like the people who fought so hard to keep "colored" people out of schools and unable to legally marry. Actually, it's exactly the same, complete with the same arguments against it.
Oh no doubt. I said I can understand why they feel and do what they do, but it sure as hell makes me sick to my stomach putting myself in their shoes. I CAN put myself in the mind of someone who'd feel and act like this, and feel the justifications creeping through me. I just try not to do it for too long, because it makes me ill. (And I start to lose myself if I do it for too long--like the barriers that make up "me" and keep me separate from each speck of consciousness in existence become so permeable that I become lost.)
They're trying to do what's right for them, and I have to respect that regardless of what it is or how it makes me feel. But it's not right for me, and in my opinion it's not right for society because I believe fostering love is better than fostering hate and fear.
(I don't always think what's right for me is right for society, either--if all of society was as isolated as I am, which is right for me, we'd all die out. Which might be right for the Earth, but not necessarily for humanity. Unless the afterlife's a whole lot nicer than things down here, in which case maybe it IS right for humanity...)
Yeah, that was a whole lotta rambling and I don't know if it added much at all. :p
I don't care if someone things I'm disgusting for wanting to kiss a girl, or eventually marry one if I found the right one. That's their prerogative. But it's also my prerogative to be able to love someone equally, regardless of which gender my life partner would be (being bi.) Somehow I'm entitled to marriage if I happen to fall in love with a man, and I'm not longer entitled to that right if I happen to fall in love with a woman? My essential love for another human being would be the same in either case, and the reason for marriage in either case. Nothing that society OUGHT to care about is compromised at all. Love is love is love...
And if they're so worried about their kids being "taught" stuff in school, maybe they need to realize that their kids aren't extensions of themselves like another limb or organ. If it isn't gay marriage in schools, it'll be drugs when they're tweens/teens or sex or staying out late or any number of things that will give their parents hell eventually. Don't deny others rights because you're afraid your kids might possibly develop a different view from you. Might as well leave them in a fucking box their whole lives if that's a concern. They aren't parents' property.
Ugh. I'm trying to keep an open mind about people who truly feel this way, and I understand why they feel and do what they do. They can do it, but I don't have to agree with it.
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And you're talking about people who really do believe their kids are their property, who think theirs would *never* do drugs, or have sex before marriage, or get pregnant, or even love someone of the same sex. That's why they're so scared of gay people being able to legally marry: just one more thing they don't have control of in their kids' lives.
It's a lot like the people who fought so hard to keep "colored" people out of schools and unable to legally marry. Actually, it's exactly the same, complete with the same arguments against it.
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They're trying to do what's right for them, and I have to respect that regardless of what it is or how it makes me feel. But it's not right for me, and in my opinion it's not right for society because I believe fostering love is better than fostering hate and fear.
(I don't always think what's right for me is right for society, either--if all of society was as isolated as I am, which is right for me, we'd all die out. Which might be right for the Earth, but not necessarily for humanity. Unless the afterlife's a whole lot nicer than things down here, in which case maybe it IS right for humanity...)
Yeah, that was a whole lotta rambling and I don't know if it added much at all. :p
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