The heart of the matter...

[irenicspace]

In a recent post, ash93 suggested the creation of a position or committee within the OTO that would “hear, review, and make recommendations on grievances from members” of the MOE. ash93 states that the MOE members, when coming in conflict with those of the lovers or hermit triad often get the short end of the stick or the case gets whitewashed. ash93's solution

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Re: Good post

[irenicspace]

Principles are not that hard if they are clearly defined and understood. I am very well aware of the situation you speak of about the 9th. My reply goes back to principle and expectation set in minerval. The bother and sister in question were well within their POWER to do their WILL and it was none of the higher-up’s business what they did outside of the OTO. If the OTO sets the expectation that it neither knows nor cares what a person does outside of the OTO, like use drugs or have a variety of sexual combinations or partners, then what business is it of the higher-up where a pair lived? Consistency and clarity are the keys. Perhaps the higher-up should have counseled them on how it made more sense to get their malkuth in shape before expending a lot of energy on the OTO or their local body. That is fine; but to forbid attendance? not within the higher-ups power nor the OTO’s business. And I’ll be happy to tell the higher-up directly, I have told him similar things before. And the fact that the OTO let this person get away with this behavior because of his degree shows another example of inconsistency.

As for your statement “I think we tend to support whichever party complains publicly.” Perhaps you need to take some time and solidify your principles. Having them clearly established within one’s will is a great tool for clarity in thinking and application of support.

I have no opinion about Sashatra's situation, I have few facts and they are all one sided. I was using it as an example in regard to how she felt she had no recourse to the situation and how there was not a foundation of trust for her to rely on that indeed, HB was working within the best interest of the OTO as he saw it.