My father wants me to put all my things in boxes, then have all the carpets torn up, then have all the walls repainted. He wants me to come with him to his girlfriend's family's Thanksgiving
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tiny_monster is right. As you grow older you worry less and less what other people think. Because it's just not worth it anymore, and it doesn't make you happy, and you realise that the people you want to impress aren't as worth impressing as you thought. And how superficial it all is.
I'm not quite there yet! But I think I'm getting closer every day. You will too. You're a smart kid, you always have been. You've intimidated me (painsauce, if you remember) sometimes because you are crazy talented.
I've heard it explained to me that the problem with this age if you're mature is that it takes a little while to wait for everyone else to grow up. But I'm sure you're not the only mature person you know. So seek those people out. Or join a club, or a team? Maybe Buddhism or something? I don't know, I'm just throwing things out there, united by a common interest or goal you might get past superficial relationships.
One thing I know helps is talking to people like professors, seeing them in their office hours semi-regularly. It brings the walls down. It makes University better. It also helps if they understand what you're going through, though it does seem like they know, to a degree.
I know it's very easy for me to give you suggestions like this, I went through what you're going through too. Not an exact copy, but my first year of University has been one of the worst of my life. I know some of these suggestions might seem hard, or impossible, but if you try some of them (and I know that's a big if), you will find that they do help.
I'm not quite there yet! But I think I'm getting closer every day. You will too. You're a smart kid, you always have been. You've intimidated me (painsauce, if you remember) sometimes because you are crazy talented.
I've heard it explained to me that the problem with this age if you're mature is that it takes a little while to wait for everyone else to grow up. But I'm sure you're not the only mature person you know. So seek those people out. Or join a club, or a team? Maybe Buddhism or something? I don't know, I'm just throwing things out there, united by a common interest or goal you might get past superficial relationships.
One thing I know helps is talking to people like professors, seeing them in their office hours semi-regularly. It brings the walls down. It makes University better. It also helps if they understand what you're going through, though it does seem like they know, to a degree.
I know it's very easy for me to give you suggestions like this, I went through what you're going through too. Not an exact copy, but my first year of University has been one of the worst of my life. I know some of these suggestions might seem hard, or impossible, but if you try some of them (and I know that's a big if), you will find that they do help.
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