Slightly mumbly ramblings with a touch of existential rage
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For some reason this strangely entertains me. But hey, I'm a simple child.
For other reasons, this post pissed me off quite a bit. (Though it has absoluty nothing to do with you, I assure you.) And most know what happens when I get pissed off. I get bitchy. I want to yell. I want to scream at someone. I want to beat the crap out of a tub of playdough... I want to write essays. (Oh how I love meh essays =D)
This is one of those "throw the playdough, write an essay" times.. But I will try to refrain from the second one. I'll just ramble out my opinions.
"There is no love, only sex."
To me, the only person who would EVER say that is --
1. Someone who has never had someone love them in a romantic manner.
2. Someone who has been hurt in a relationship.
3. Someone who is jealous or bitter that "everyone else" has someone that they don't (linked to #1 in a way).
4. Someone who just wants to run their mouth and have attention focused on them.
5. Or maybe someone who really does believe it.
As for the thought behind the quote -
I believe that the word "love" has become something to just throw around among some people. They don't seem to understand the meaning behind it, and they probably never will until they actually find someone they really feel that way about. It's kind of a "hit you in the face with the problem" approach, but hey, it works sometimes.
I will tell good friends that I love them, and I mean it. True, I do not I mean it in a romantic sense, but I know what it means to love someone, and I'm not going to go around and take the chance of me (or them) not being there the next day, and them never knowing how I felt about them. It's kind of a "live for the moment" situation, if you will.
As for romantic love... If I feel a certain way about someone I will tell them. I will feel it and I will share it with them. There is no sense in making it seem like any less of a deal than it is, because love is love.
The whole "love is non existant, only sex is existant" thing has a name. Friends with benefits (or FWB). Personally, I think the concept of that is ridiculous. The only real use of it is for physical pleasure, and much of the time that physical pleasure turns into emotional pain even if you vowed to keep the two seperate.
But here's the thing. It's almost inevitable that the physical and emotional aspects of the relationship will become blurred, and someone will be hurt in the end. FWB seems to be destroying the real meaning of "love". That, in my opinion is the only situation (with the exception of a one-sided relationship) that the quote applies to.
I'll admit it. I'm in love with someone. In love. Love and lust are two different things, but again, that division seems to have been blurred by the speaker of the above quotation. If said quote is true, shouldn't I be feeling pure lust? If there is not love, just sex, why is it that I am in love with someone? Why it is that I have NOT had sexual intercourse with that person?
The opinions of some people don't make much sense at all to me.
(Please note that all of the above is indeed my OPINION. You may debate it however you choose. You can disagree, you can agree, you could not even have a side on the issue, I really don't care. Decipher the above thoughts as you wish.)
-Coco
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