Apr 10, 2017 23:22
“Even when I detach, I care. You can be separate from a thing and still care about it. If I wanted to detach completely, I would move my body away. I would stop the conversation midsentence. I would leave the bed. Instead, I hover over it for a second. I glance off in another direction. But I always glance back at you.”
I found this quote looking up things about hate. Why do we hate people and more importantly, can we ever stop hating peole. This quote really pulled me in tonight, I always say I'm doing great, this is for the best, but it's all a lie. I'm always looking back over my shoulder, hoping, praying, crying that it will all fix itself. Then I'm told things that make me come back to reality, it's not going to be fixed, it really is happening, and there is nothign I can do to stop it.
Another Quote that makes me want to read this book:
“There are times when I worry that I've already lost myself. That is, that my self is so inseparable from being with you that if we were to separate, I would no longer be. I save this thought for when I feel the darkest discontent. I never meant to depend so much on someone else.”
I feel like I no longer exist, I never wanted to depend so much on another person. I never felt so betrayed, so, left alone with myself. I wonder, what if I made choice B, instead of choice A. I should have realized when you told me you wanted a divorce now almost 3 years ago, that you meant it. Every choice I have made since then, had been the wrong one it feels like. I could have moved on, I forgave you. I told you it was ok what you did, I understood it. I did then, and I still do now. But, I feel lied to, I feel cheated to, I feel like, I never got the chance to make things right, that you were always looking for an escape, and that escape finally came. Vows to me, mean everything, I don't know if I can get married again, I'm terrified of letting someone else into my heart. It feels deflated, crushed, I dont' know if I will ever pick the peices back up.
How do people handle divorce?