Philosophy
Relationships are like taming wild horses.
You start out wary, circling each other. You're not quite sure what he's capable of, or what he'll do - but you know that he's magnificent and wonderful. He's cautious but curious, and that curiousity keeps him from bolting.
You sit down and pretend to ignore him, staring off into the distance somewhere. He paces closer, then backs off cautiously. When you don't make any threatening moves, he comes a little closer before sidling away again.
Now you take out an apple, or a carrot, and put a piece on the ground, then stand and walk away. He approaches and sniffs it, then eats it. You put down another piece and back up again, but not so far. Slowly he is lured closer, until he'll take a piece from your outstretched hand.
Soon you can approach him without food in your hand. He'll even let you touch him.
And now is when you have to back off and let go. You have to let him choose to come to you before you can even start breaking him to tack, or a rider. You sit down and wait, and let him decide how he feels. He might leave - that's his choice. But if he chooses to stay, he'll be yours. If you push too hard, and bring out tack before he trusts you, he'll bolt.
You have to let him go, completely and without reservation. You have to have faith in his judgement, and believe in the careful relationship you've established. If you can't trust him unless he's under your eye, he'll never be a true partner.
After all, he has to trust you too.
Staying up all night + Bejeweled 2 + a situation on my mind = philosophy.
You start out wary, circling each other. You're not quite sure what he's capable of, or what he'll do - but you know that he's magnificent and wonderful. He's cautious but curious, and that curiousity keeps him from bolting.
You sit down and pretend to ignore him, staring off into the distance somewhere. He paces closer, then backs off cautiously. When you don't make any threatening moves, he comes a little closer before sidling away again.
Now you take out an apple, or a carrot, and put a piece on the ground, then stand and walk away. He approaches and sniffs it, then eats it. You put down another piece and back up again, but not so far. Slowly he is lured closer, until he'll take a piece from your outstretched hand.
Soon you can approach him without food in your hand. He'll even let you touch him.
And now is when you have to back off and let go. You have to let him choose to come to you before you can even start breaking him to tack, or a rider. You sit down and wait, and let him decide how he feels. He might leave - that's his choice. But if he chooses to stay, he'll be yours. If you push too hard, and bring out tack before he trusts you, he'll bolt.
You have to let him go, completely and without reservation. You have to have faith in his judgement, and believe in the careful relationship you've established. If you can't trust him unless he's under your eye, he'll never be a true partner.
After all, he has to trust you too.
Staying up all night + Bejeweled 2 + a situation on my mind = philosophy.