Wedding Stuffs
First of all, wedding's over! Pics will be up soon :) I'm all officially Rachel Bussert and stuff!
So the fun post will be later. This is primarily because people keep asking me about the big venue fiasco and it's easier to just link than to type it out over and over.
So, we booked the wedding originally for last September. Due to financial issues (because we were paying for almost everything ourselves)we changed it to May. We confirmed TWICE that she had us down for May 22nd. She insisted everything was right, messed up, and put us down for the 29th, and booked another wedding.
She tells me what happened on April 23rd. Needless to say, I cried on the phone, not sure how to deal with this when everything was booked for May 22nd and all our friends' flights are booked around that, etc. Now, anyone who knows me in person can probably attest to the fact that I'm really, really mellow about things like this when all is said and done. I didn't yell. I didn't cuss or even make accusations. All I said was that I wasn't sure what to do and I needed to go and I hung up. I called Mom (my stepmom) and asked her to help me figure things out. Mom called the venue and it took like... five days, but supposedly it was all worked out, and we had the entire upstairs (what we had booked). She told us she had given the other couple the option to take a discount to move to Friday and they didn't take it and instead took a refund to go elsewhere.
So then, we go a couple of weeks before the wedding to get an idea of what to do about table setup.She's still telling us at this point that the other couple opted out and that there would just be a wedding downstairs in the other set of rooms. We work things out with food and all and everything seems fine.
Tuesday before the wedding, she decides to tell me that we can't do the rehearsal there Friday due to "a wedding". I turn in our floorplan for what's supposed to be two rooms and everything is supposedly good to go at this point. Luckily, I was making our rehearsal dinner so we could just use the place where I was doing dinner for the rehearsal too.
Thursday she calls, and is all "don't freak out like you did last time but..." and oh my god, that's just so insulting. She claims that a water pipe burst downstairs and she has to move the downstairs wedding upstairs, cutting our space in half. Okay, no big deal. Our guest list was small enough to fit in one room if pressed, and dude, I didn't even complain that she fucked with my floor plan.
So, yesterday, Steve gets to the venue a few hours before me because I was getting hair and makeup done and all that. The first thing he sees is, lol there's a wedding downstairs. Then, because my stepmom and I are very close, closer than my mother and I, she just calls herself Mom to Donna, the woman who runs the venue. Not realizing that this is the same woman who she's been talking to on the phone, Donna claims to Mom that my stepmom had been talking to her and said I was completely out of control. So Mom was all, "I am her stepmom and I never, ever said that."
I don't get there until less than forty minutes before the ceremony (hair took FOREVER), so I don't notice until afterwards that the setup isn't right. She left out tables we needed for extra stuff and things like that. A little bit into the ceremony, I find out that the other wedding party, the one in the other half of the upstairs, is the wedding that supposedly opted out.
Apparently, assuming we'd be pissy at each other, Donna lied to us both all along. She then told the other wedding party that there were rumors going around and not to believe anything we said. We proceeded to make friends and compare notes (we even ended up with some of their guests at our wedding XDDDD), and figured out what she was trying to pull.
On the downside, Steve and my mom missed some of the best parts of the wedding dealing with this crap. Happily though, she couldn't deny anything when people from both wedding parties confronted her, and she was forced to refund us both completely, so we left with a check for our deposit and aren't being charged for anything.
So the fun post will be later. This is primarily because people keep asking me about the big venue fiasco and it's easier to just link than to type it out over and over.
So, we booked the wedding originally for last September. Due to financial issues (because we were paying for almost everything ourselves)we changed it to May. We confirmed TWICE that she had us down for May 22nd. She insisted everything was right, messed up, and put us down for the 29th, and booked another wedding.
She tells me what happened on April 23rd. Needless to say, I cried on the phone, not sure how to deal with this when everything was booked for May 22nd and all our friends' flights are booked around that, etc. Now, anyone who knows me in person can probably attest to the fact that I'm really, really mellow about things like this when all is said and done. I didn't yell. I didn't cuss or even make accusations. All I said was that I wasn't sure what to do and I needed to go and I hung up. I called Mom (my stepmom) and asked her to help me figure things out. Mom called the venue and it took like... five days, but supposedly it was all worked out, and we had the entire upstairs (what we had booked). She told us she had given the other couple the option to take a discount to move to Friday and they didn't take it and instead took a refund to go elsewhere.
So then, we go a couple of weeks before the wedding to get an idea of what to do about table setup.She's still telling us at this point that the other couple opted out and that there would just be a wedding downstairs in the other set of rooms. We work things out with food and all and everything seems fine.
Tuesday before the wedding, she decides to tell me that we can't do the rehearsal there Friday due to "a wedding". I turn in our floorplan for what's supposed to be two rooms and everything is supposedly good to go at this point. Luckily, I was making our rehearsal dinner so we could just use the place where I was doing dinner for the rehearsal too.
Thursday she calls, and is all "don't freak out like you did last time but..." and oh my god, that's just so insulting. She claims that a water pipe burst downstairs and she has to move the downstairs wedding upstairs, cutting our space in half. Okay, no big deal. Our guest list was small enough to fit in one room if pressed, and dude, I didn't even complain that she fucked with my floor plan.
So, yesterday, Steve gets to the venue a few hours before me because I was getting hair and makeup done and all that. The first thing he sees is, lol there's a wedding downstairs. Then, because my stepmom and I are very close, closer than my mother and I, she just calls herself Mom to Donna, the woman who runs the venue. Not realizing that this is the same woman who she's been talking to on the phone, Donna claims to Mom that my stepmom had been talking to her and said I was completely out of control. So Mom was all, "I am her stepmom and I never, ever said that."
I don't get there until less than forty minutes before the ceremony (hair took FOREVER), so I don't notice until afterwards that the setup isn't right. She left out tables we needed for extra stuff and things like that. A little bit into the ceremony, I find out that the other wedding party, the one in the other half of the upstairs, is the wedding that supposedly opted out.
Apparently, assuming we'd be pissy at each other, Donna lied to us both all along. She then told the other wedding party that there were rumors going around and not to believe anything we said. We proceeded to make friends and compare notes (we even ended up with some of their guests at our wedding XDDDD), and figured out what she was trying to pull.
On the downside, Steve and my mom missed some of the best parts of the wedding dealing with this crap. Happily though, she couldn't deny anything when people from both wedding parties confronted her, and she was forced to refund us both completely, so we left with a check for our deposit and aren't being charged for anything.