Ramblings of a Cuban :P
Just things I think about but never say or observations I make when I notice something. Take it however you please. Don't care cuz it's me rambling about stuff. :P
It's funny how with some people they either want to be with their friend all of the time even though that friend has someone in their life or you have the friend who stays away from the friend with significant other cuz they think that person wants to be left alone or doesn't want to bother or intrude in their relationship. My friends went with the "let's leave the lovebirds alone" when Mike's friends are the "hey! let's hang out every weekend!" There's never a happy medium...and maybe there won't be one. But if everyone understands this, then that's when the medium will happen. Like both parties should call each other if some group is getting together. Planning things always helps everyone whether single or not. And keeping a positive attitude and show support to one another helps tremendously with the changes in our lives. I know I went through a lot of changes and figuring out stuff in my life that I never noticed before, like all the driving I would do for my friends just so I could be with them.
No one really came over to my house even though I'm the one without the "parental units" around. :P hehehe.... But because I live alone with no family, I was available all the time, only working part-time and school. Plus that I know how families are and the fact that my school was close by to where they live.....I could hang and sleepover whenever and wherever. But when school was over and I got a full-time job, things changed. I had no responsibilities down in Laguna. I was tired more cuz of the job and driving to see my friends and spending time with my new boyfriend. And it occurred to me that if my friends want to be with me they will call or come over. They never came and when they called I was busy with Mike and/or his friends at the time. No one offers to come by my place. I soon realized that this is life, my friends will get it eventually and it's not the end of the world. There has to be a balance and that you can't please everyone in your life. I've learned that.
When you share your life with someone, you LITERALLY share your life with them. When his friends want to do something, you go with them. When your friends want to do something, he comes along. Plus the he gets with the guys and I get with the girls.....but then we have TWO sets of those.....the girls/guys from HIS life and the girls/guys on MY side. It's quite a hassle now that I wrote it out. :P lol...
We're all growing up and getting jobs and a special someone in our lives. It happens. We just have to understand and accept it. I, personally, thought I was going to be single for a looooong time and I think it's due to the fact that I am older than all my friends by 2 years and more, and the fact that I was living on my own when I met them. I had other responsibilities that they didn't have yet...jobs, bills, rent, gas, loans....stuff like that. Plus I didn't have family here so I had no one to come home to except myself (and no one to do groceries or laundry....MAN I missed that ><). So the thought of having someone special in my life didn't occur to me at all. I had a plan of sorts. Finish school, get the job, get a place, THEN find Mr. Right. :P hehehe.... But my plan switched on me. Found Mr. Right right when I finished school, got the job, and now SHARING a place with Mr. Right. So yeah...perfect example of life at work. :)
Life is pretty much cause and effect. If you don't do something, there won't be an effect. And when life "cause" you to bump into that guy or give you the nudge to ask for help from the cute guy at the register, then DO IT. Who knows what the effect will be. I didn't know I was going to find my soulmate through online dating. Heck, I wasn't even planning on actually taking this seriously. But because of my curiosity urging me to try and Betty wanting to try and find a man online, I did it. And boy did I find a man! :D lol And poor Betty didn't. But that didn't stop her or make her depressed and just stop her life. She laughs about it and continues living.
Friends will always be there for you....TRUE friends will be there. Even if you can't see them all the time or talk with them everyday, they're there for you. MIke and I are planning a future together one day. I live in Riverside now with him until he finishes school and we save money for our own house one day. BUT....my door will always be open to whoever (single or not) wants to visit me, sleepover, hang out, or need to escape their own life for a bit. My friends are my family in the sense that I will be there for them when they need someone. I can't hang out with them as much as I did before but if someone messes with them, I am so there to open up a can of whoop-ass! :D
It's funny how with some people they either want to be with their friend all of the time even though that friend has someone in their life or you have the friend who stays away from the friend with significant other cuz they think that person wants to be left alone or doesn't want to bother or intrude in their relationship. My friends went with the "let's leave the lovebirds alone" when Mike's friends are the "hey! let's hang out every weekend!" There's never a happy medium...and maybe there won't be one. But if everyone understands this, then that's when the medium will happen. Like both parties should call each other if some group is getting together. Planning things always helps everyone whether single or not. And keeping a positive attitude and show support to one another helps tremendously with the changes in our lives. I know I went through a lot of changes and figuring out stuff in my life that I never noticed before, like all the driving I would do for my friends just so I could be with them.
No one really came over to my house even though I'm the one without the "parental units" around. :P hehehe.... But because I live alone with no family, I was available all the time, only working part-time and school. Plus that I know how families are and the fact that my school was close by to where they live.....I could hang and sleepover whenever and wherever. But when school was over and I got a full-time job, things changed. I had no responsibilities down in Laguna. I was tired more cuz of the job and driving to see my friends and spending time with my new boyfriend. And it occurred to me that if my friends want to be with me they will call or come over. They never came and when they called I was busy with Mike and/or his friends at the time. No one offers to come by my place. I soon realized that this is life, my friends will get it eventually and it's not the end of the world. There has to be a balance and that you can't please everyone in your life. I've learned that.
When you share your life with someone, you LITERALLY share your life with them. When his friends want to do something, you go with them. When your friends want to do something, he comes along. Plus the he gets with the guys and I get with the girls.....but then we have TWO sets of those.....the girls/guys from HIS life and the girls/guys on MY side. It's quite a hassle now that I wrote it out. :P lol...
We're all growing up and getting jobs and a special someone in our lives. It happens. We just have to understand and accept it. I, personally, thought I was going to be single for a looooong time and I think it's due to the fact that I am older than all my friends by 2 years and more, and the fact that I was living on my own when I met them. I had other responsibilities that they didn't have yet...jobs, bills, rent, gas, loans....stuff like that. Plus I didn't have family here so I had no one to come home to except myself (and no one to do groceries or laundry....MAN I missed that ><). So the thought of having someone special in my life didn't occur to me at all. I had a plan of sorts. Finish school, get the job, get a place, THEN find Mr. Right. :P hehehe.... But my plan switched on me. Found Mr. Right right when I finished school, got the job, and now SHARING a place with Mr. Right. So yeah...perfect example of life at work. :)
Life is pretty much cause and effect. If you don't do something, there won't be an effect. And when life "cause" you to bump into that guy or give you the nudge to ask for help from the cute guy at the register, then DO IT. Who knows what the effect will be. I didn't know I was going to find my soulmate through online dating. Heck, I wasn't even planning on actually taking this seriously. But because of my curiosity urging me to try and Betty wanting to try and find a man online, I did it. And boy did I find a man! :D lol And poor Betty didn't. But that didn't stop her or make her depressed and just stop her life. She laughs about it and continues living.
Friends will always be there for you....TRUE friends will be there. Even if you can't see them all the time or talk with them everyday, they're there for you. MIke and I are planning a future together one day. I live in Riverside now with him until he finishes school and we save money for our own house one day. BUT....my door will always be open to whoever (single or not) wants to visit me, sleepover, hang out, or need to escape their own life for a bit. My friends are my family in the sense that I will be there for them when they need someone. I can't hang out with them as much as I did before but if someone messes with them, I am so there to open up a can of whoop-ass! :D