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I have been through a whirlwind of a week. A lot good, and a lot of stuff stirred up and dumped upside down. I'm still processing some of it. But I think I'm moving forward, even if I can't see the fruits of it yet.
I have seen so much discussion of that father who made a video of shooting up his daughter's laptop, and so much apologism for violence towards children. I am out of words. I am simply so, so saddened that so many people are unable to see the difference between loving discipline and invasive controlling domination of not only a child's actions but her emotions, through means violent enough to horribly kill nine people if used that way.
I also may have a recap of "Dangerous Liaisons" to write up at some time, but all of the anger at the refusal to recognize controlling, isolating behavior as part of the spectrum of violence and domination combined with watching Damon try to make Elena's decisions for her and use force if necessary to stop her in the episode hit such a wrong note for me, at exactly the wrong time. Seeing some opinions online that him doing that showed how much he loves her makes me want to scream just that much more.
Despite our disappointments and heartaches, we have gone along with the program and accepted without challenge and critique the notion that love can exist n a context of domination. A feminist movement and many heartaches later, more women than ever before now know that love and domination do not go together-- that if one is present, the other will be absent.
--bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love
So perhaps tomorrow I will have the words and energy to post my thoughts. I am far behind on a life update.
I love you all, my friends.
I have seen so much discussion of that father who made a video of shooting up his daughter's laptop, and so much apologism for violence towards children. I am out of words. I am simply so, so saddened that so many people are unable to see the difference between loving discipline and invasive controlling domination of not only a child's actions but her emotions, through means violent enough to horribly kill nine people if used that way.
I also may have a recap of "Dangerous Liaisons" to write up at some time, but all of the anger at the refusal to recognize controlling, isolating behavior as part of the spectrum of violence and domination combined with watching Damon try to make Elena's decisions for her and use force if necessary to stop her in the episode hit such a wrong note for me, at exactly the wrong time. Seeing some opinions online that him doing that showed how much he loves her makes me want to scream just that much more.
Despite our disappointments and heartaches, we have gone along with the program and accepted without challenge and critique the notion that love can exist n a context of domination. A feminist movement and many heartaches later, more women than ever before now know that love and domination do not go together-- that if one is present, the other will be absent.
--bell hooks, Communion: The Female Search for Love
So perhaps tomorrow I will have the words and energy to post my thoughts. I am far behind on a life update.
I love you all, my friends.